I'm getting married. I've been with my company for seven years and we're a nice, close group of 50+ people. No drama. Incredibly pleasant. But I can't invite everyone from work.
Do you think I should send a group email to the 10 people I am inviting to let them know - and then they'd know who else is invited? Am I overthinking this?

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If you left your job, who would you still be friends with? Thats the first way to narrow the list

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I’ve had a similar thought before too on who to invite from work, so you’re not overthinking it! IMO it’s good to let them know who else is invited. How you communicate it probably depends how close those 10 people are. You could individually let people know vs a group email, but if they’re all close that sounds pretty fair

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Relatedly, OP, do you have everyone’s cell number? A text may be better than an email. I agree it’s a good idea because it’s awkward to go around asking others if they are invited to the wedding. I ended up inviting my whole office, but I did invitations in waves, so they didn’t all get invited at the same time.

Get the home address of those 10 people privately and then send them a wedding invitation.

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