Is reconciliation with an ex-fiance wise? We ended things over 6 months ago and went no contact. He danced with and kissed a random girl at his bachelorette. That wasn’t the only thing that made me come to the decision. He was dealing with an identity crisis and was in a really dark place. We recently spoke and caught up with each other for a bit. I will say my life has changed tremendously since then, I found my spiritual family and have grown a lot in my faith. Cont

What are parents paying for baby sitters these days? Wife and I going out tonight for about 3-4 hours and have a local college student babysitting our toddler daughter tonight. Low-medium cost of living city and daughter will be asleep for most of the time. We’re thinking $15-20 per hour and make sure there are plenty of snacks around. Appropriate?

Currently going through divorce proceedings. I honestly don't want to date anyone right now but I have this fear that I'm already 28 and I'll never meet anyone good. I went on some apps and matched with some guys but I feel like they're all the same and I don't wana get to know anyone. But I'm also scared for my future.

The biggest thing I keep running and running around my head- after 8 months, why did he drop me? When he texted ending it l….it wasn’t me, like we weren’t us, his words were from someone else, like I didn’t matter. It doesn’t matter how much it wasn’t about me, how he chose to end it, and that’s what crushed me. Who I thought I knew was wrong. I want to know how close he was to loving me.

Married to a crazy rich girlfriend and it's the worst experience of my life. She can afford anything, flying first class everywhere, wears all branded stuff and she doesnt have to work for life. I am working very hard to provide for family and I am still not able to add any value to her life and she's been distancing herself. We havent had any meaningful interaction in the past 1 year too, been sleeping separately, no touch/kiss/sex or anything like that. We might be divorcing soon...

Why doesn't my wife get that it's just me and the great dane now. She making this awkward wanting some room in the bed.

How do I start the divorce process? Do I have to get a lawyer? Help...!

Hooked up with my ex today. Something about the holidays really tends to bring out my self-destructive tendencies.

My partner hates my long working hours.

It is really hard to do well in this business without sacrifice and my partner doesn't like it. To be fair that sacrifice is her... Most nights,over the weekend, and during every meal. She deserves better but I either sacrifice time or sacrifice earning potential.

I don't know how to solve this problem.

Fellow desi fishes, how do you all deal with loneliness? I don’t really have many friends where I live. Every weekend, I can’t help but feel alone and lonely

How can I make friends in Chicago?

Anyone else struggling with hormones / mood swings? I am almost 16 weeks and been having a real tough time lately, feeling really down and stressed about things. Sadly, causing tension between me and my partner as well as he cannot relate and seems preoccupied with business as usual. Trying to get out the funk and just telling myself it’s all the hormones.

Dropped off my kids to school this morning and just felt unsettled. It’s so hard to concentrate on work today.

I hate it when people try to bond with me over trauma when their trauma is that they fight a lot with their spouse or they didn’t get the promotion they wanted. How is that staring death in the face??

It’s my birthday in a few minutes. 2021 has been a terrible year for me. My marriage ended. It wasn’t a bad end though. We are still close, just not romantic partners anymore. The very first dog I ever had died and I couldn’t go see her because of the quarantine. I didn’t get a promotion that I more than deserved. I don’t think I get paid well. Most of my friends moved out of the city and I’m having to meet new people at 32. I love my job but it’s incredibly stressful. I’m terribly lonely.

I’m (early30s) about 8 months into a relationship with a 40m. Things are wonderful in every aspect, but he is absolutely atrocious with his finances. I felt it becoming an issue about two months ago. He forgets about auto payments and just generally doesn’t care. I sat down with him and looked at everything and even after talking it out he still continues to stress and it’s now causing me stress. I had a final discussion with him today about it and he went on abt how love isn’t enough for me…

Any book recommendations to gift my cousin sister? She studied (masters) psychology and is a trained classical dancer.

I've got some friends who work remote jobs, and every day I grow more jealous of them during my one-hour commute.

I hate going home for Thanksgiving because I always feel like I haven't succeeded enough yet and my family has seen me fail a lot

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

Going back to work next month. Have a full time nanny but feel like even that isnt enough. I work all sorts of timezones. Europe has my morning, Asia has my evening. Nanny 9-5? 7-3? 10-6? No clue what will work best and don’t want to be inconsistent with her. Any advice on the return?

Best - Jeep/Rocket Mortgage (Mamoa)
Worst - Olay/ Michelob Missed OP - Coke Energy (really odd)

Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

Any idea what compensation would look like for an experienced professional (5 years med device product development) at a boutique firm like clearview?
Undergrad and masters in engineers from Ivy, not sure if that makes a difference

How much hike we can expect while promoting from SA to M level ?

I️ am pursuing a Product Management Internship in Big Tech for next summer. I️ am comfortable reaching out to people to network and know who to reach out to. However, I️ have not found the convos to be all that helpful. Any advice on how to make these convos useful?

Last year I moved internally from a
Paralegal level 11 w/ 14 yrs exp at
$100k base + up to 8% bonus to my
current role as compliance manager
level 9 at $123k base + up to 35%
bonus. I was above cap in my prior
role and now my range is up to $138k
base. I'm being recruited to my old
team as a level 10
Manager with
same base/bonus as now but since it's
a lower level I will cap out within a
year. I always found the legal work
more interesting but limited in career
growth. Not sure what to do.

Hi Fishes,
Please help to decide which company to join

Optum (Noida) - 10.5 fixed+ 1.5 var + 2 JB
Seimens (bangalore) - 13.5 fixed + 1 JB

Yoe 2.5
Tech .net fs

Is here anyone from GE client project at Citiustech?
Which client laptop do they provide?

Analysts seem to like TJX but looking at the long term debt/equity I can’t get comfortable. What am I missing?

Any downsides to leaving a “Counsel” role and moving into a “Legal Affairs” role? Still practicing and representing the company, just a difference of titles, so core work remains the same - what do you think?

I’m hiring a part time remote recruiter! Minimum of 3 years of recruiting experience, at least one year of DoD recruiting. Please feel free to message me if you’re interested or know someone who is!

Hi
Can someone refer me in Citi
If there is an opening for analytics position

Skills: Python,SQL,excel,sas

Yoe: 2.3

Hi fishes

I want a referral in the data science domain. I have an experience of 2.5+ years in data science and analytics with skills in python, sql, data Analytics, machine learning and SAS.

Currently having a notice period of 1 month, I’m looking for a change.

Please let me know if you have a suitable role for me in your organisation.

Thanks.

I’ve been practicing in both big law (many yrs ago) and now in-house for over 10 years. Quite often I struggle because I don’t find work fulfilling. I’ve been in industries that allegedly have greater cause (healthcare) but was eventually disappointed by the corporate bureaucracy and went to a cutting-edge tech company for intellectual stimulation. Still I struggle. Should I try public interest? Not that I don’t need the money but it’s hard to work when I am so detached and find it meaningless

Enhanced maternity pay at EY - how long do you have to be employed until you can qualify for the enhanced pay? I believe it's 50% for 9 months, happy to be corrected

It’s coming down to the wire for my last recommender to submit for my Exec MBA program deadlines, and I have reached out multiple times with no response. Not sure what I should do now.

I have 5.8lpa with 3 years of experience 8n software testing, how much ctc can I ask?

Will be moving across the country next summer for a job in Dallas, and really would love to have serious-minded Christian roommates. Does anyone have suggestions on any websites or sources where I could find Christian roommates?

Can I pray for someone this evening?

Wanting to deepen my faith and listen to sermons. Recommendations for your favorite sermons?

Based on the recent event of George Floyd’s murder/police brutality, what do others think? Most of the church is silent when it comes to these issues and not sure why. Curious to know others thoughts regardless of your race/ethnic background.

Good day brothers and sisters! I am hosting a virtual fellowship and worship night on Thursday 12/10 @ 8pm est. please let me know if you’d like to join and receive the link!

Hi! Just joined this bowl - anyone in the Houston area want to connect?

We’ve been attending a church for about 6 months now and trying to decide if it’s our church home. The only reason I’m hesitant is because people don’t seem to engage with us as much as I expected. For example, I told the pastors wife about a serious diagnosis we recently received and she did pray for us on the spot, but no one has reached out to us at all to check in. Am I expecting too much?

Any Christians in Germany ? Hard to find a good small group

Any Consultants in Chicago, looking to connect?

How does anyone keep time well for prayer and meditation while fully giving yourself to family and work in this economy?

One can imagine work here as meant in the maximum of work vs life here.

I know people who are constantly crashing and that’s without the set time for prayer. And despite hearts or gold, obvious piety and a high work ethic.

People of God, in addition to strategic action, I think it’s best to pray for wisdom, leadership, and healing across the land. Please let me know if you would like prayer. It has been an emotionally taxing past few days for sure.

Have you ever taken a trip to Israel? If so, what tour company or guide did you go with? Considering a trip later this year or next year

Any good reformed churches in the Toronto area? Happy Sunday everyone.

Hi everyone! I am planning a convention for my church and I want to get customized gifts for the attendees. If you know anyone who does customized things (mugs, notebooks, etc), can you share their instagram/facebook page here?

What books have you read recently that have dramatically shifted your understanding of who God is?