What are parents paying for baby sitters these days? Wife and I going out tonight for about 3-4 hours and have a local college student babysitting our toddler daughter tonight. Low-medium cost of living city and daughter will be asleep for most of the time. We’re thinking $15-20 per hour and make sure there are plenty of snacks around. Appropriate?

Has anyone dealt with coming to terms with an emotionally abusive relationship? I struggle to admit this (because more drastic examples come to mind), but my therapist mentioned that things like yelling/throwing things/blocking me from leaving the room are also abusive traits my ex demonstrated. It makes me feel alienated from myself — like “how could I have allowed myself to be treated like that?”. Also feeling ashamed to tell anyone

So my brother doesn't talk to me for 6 months.   (I had offered my lake house guest space to my cousin who said yes instead of my brother who didn't know if he could come nor when he might know if he could come, how unfair of me).

On Thanksgiving day mom arrives and tells me that brother might come by in an hour.  He had ignored my invite weeks ago.  (Uh ok, sure).

Continued...

I need friends 🥺

Can I buy 2 houses , one in a district with school ratings 4/10 and another house with school district 9/10? And then send kid to school which is 9/10 .

Currently don’t have kids. But would have them soon enough to send them to school after 5 years.

Is it legally allowed to have two residences in same area but different zip codes and choose better school for the kid ?

Colleagues, if any of you are interested in helping severely disabled combat veterans get homes adapted for their disabilities, let me know. My wife recently started working for former NFL linebacker Jared Allen and his foundation. We're trying to figure out how to leverage the power of the big consulting firms to help our brothers and sisters in need.

Brand new (like, just-had-a-kid new) mom here. Life seems manageable with the baby sleeping much of the time. It gets worse from here doesn’t it? I’m scared 😱😱😱

I want to share with you makes me smile today:
I honor my father’s legacy and memory.

Hashtag Make it rain.
I fucking don’t care about the price, since it has no price tag to me.

Anyone dealt with a Christian parent who has been backsliding since the pandemic? Is this common? And how did you deal with it?

Need recommendations for a baby shower lunch menu. Planning a party for around 25-30 people and confused about what the menu should be.

So uhhh anyone need a house sitter the week before memorials day weekend? Wanted to visit the city and go to the office a few days but my friend who I usually crash with is out of town

How much parental leave does your company offer to employees? Please include location, size of company and type of business. We are a SaaS company in NYC with 60 employees. We give 16 weeks paid for “primary caregivers “ and 6 weeks for “secondary “ caregivers. I want to advocate for everyone to get at least 12 weeks.

Anyone here ever been scared by some major differences in materialism with your partner? I’ve been considered “boujee” by some friends but my girlfriend of just over a year is on a whole other level. Lately because of many of her friends getting engaged / married, rings have been mentioned and she’s said pretty much she wouldnt be happy with under 25k.

I come from a very middle class upbringing, and so does she, although she’s influenced by friends dating professional athletes and stuff

Is my relationship worth it? Met my SO of 3 years senior year of college. Hoped we would graduate and start our full time jobs together, but my SO is unfortunately still in school (switched majors, transferred schools, etc). Our relationship has taken a big hit, as I am moving forward with my life but he is still in school and can’t find a job. I am also starting to resent him and he is turning more insecure. I am only 23, is this worth it?

If you could go back and start over would you still choose this path? Or would you choose a different career and/or a different time to have children? I accidentally became a working parent in law so while I love my job and my children I don't think I would have planned it quite like this.

What do you all do to make non-professional / personal connections? Particularly with the Coronavirus, and being in domestic relations, I wake up, go to work, work out, go home. So outside of law, my interactions with people are only at the gym given that my area is draining— particularly at the moment. Probably a good thing for now; but if we take coronavirus out of the equation, I’m interested what others in the community do to develop personal connections.

Which offer is better?
€100K per year in Netherlands (with 30% ruling) OR
45000 AED / month in Dubai?

For a family with a kid.
Tech stack: SRE/DevOps/ Cloud architect
People staying in Europe and dubai please comment.

My priorities: Long term stay, better education , quality life, location with better security, law n order and less hussels.

Any recommendations for women’s watches? Looking to spend $800-$1000

Is this bowl active?

I have a Bachelor's degree in Finance, but now want to pursue getting a masters in IT. What should I do?

I’m currently a Senior in Tax! Have more than 18 months left though on my h-1 but was wondering if anyone started their GC process a little early? I’ve heard that sometimes Deloitte won’t start the process until you have about 18 months left so just wondering if I should still ask for it or not

Can anyone tell me about EY India ( Not EY GDS) ? Pros and cons

Does anyone work as a self contracted pharmacist or consultant pharmacist? How did you get your first role? I am working to get my consultant license. Have worked management exp. in retail and have worked as a contract pharmacist for IHS. Any advice would be wonderful.

What should be expected package for Senior Bizops Engineer.

YEO - 7.9
Current CTC -13.13
Offer form another company -18.70

Could you please provide your suggestion .

Thanks in advance

What is the hierarchy in Soceite Generale?
What will be the position offered for 5 years work ex + MBA for BA role and the compensation?

Hi all

Can anyone explain the salary bands at Vodafone and how they work? They’re talked about but not published publicly

Curious outsider

By and large it seems like women are more likely to pursue veterinary medicine as a career, anyone have an idea why?

Moved to the GTA last year from Vancouver; and we have a BIG raccoon issue here. It’s pissing me off. Raccoons keep taking a dump on my porch. Tried everything to deter them away but been unsuccessful

Looking for referral at SAP labs India, CGI & Accenture.

Can anyone please help. Please DM

9/26 check-in: Happy Monday, y’all! What are your plans for today?

For me- treadmill and triceps.

Any suggestions for how to find a fully remote customer support job?

Hi Fishes,

I've been on career break for 7 months now and willing to restart my career. Having 2.7 YOE and actively looking for UiPath jobs. Any referrals or suggestions would be much appreciated. Thanks!

Brand new (like, just-had-a-kid new) mom here. Life seems manageable with the baby sleeping much of the time. It gets worse from here doesn’t it? I’m scared 😱😱😱

If you could go back and start over would you still choose this path? Or would you choose a different career and/or a different time to have children? I accidentally became a working parent in law so while I love my job and my children I don't think I would have planned it quite like this.

Sometime I feel like I'm operating at lower capacity than during the height of Covid trying to navigate billables and no childcare/remote school. Anyone else feel this way? Are we just burnt out from all the working nights and weekend in 2020/2021?

Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sight words). He has a very high IQ. As a voracious reader, I am finding myself unexpectedly distraught that something that I have loved so much will be such a struggle for him, and worrying that it will affect his motivation and may steer him away from things he may otherwise love.
Tips/Commiseration?

Has anyone taken on side gigs here? In transactional real estate and could really use the extra money. I’m in-house and drowning in bills. Where did you post and what kind of insurance did you get?

Where would you begin w/ setting up your own solo practice? I am a military veteran and in need of some serious help (w/ starting a business that is). It is a long story, of which I might reveal more depending on the responses in the thread. Thanks in advance for entertaining such a broad question!

Curious to know what the norm is — does your firm prorate your bonus for time that you are out on paid parental leave?

Came here to say that I wish I could fully express to my non-parent colleagues how much their support has meant to me. I can cover for them when they have stuff so they can unplug, but I feel like they will never truly understand the gratitude when they offer to do a task for me when my kid is sick, etc. Any ideas on how to pay it forward?

(Especially those of you with young children) how do you make time to exercise/be active?

NDAs for Nannies? I was wondering how everyone who is doing some work from home during covid handles in-house caregivers? Obviously we all take all steps to protect confidential information and realistically a caregiver isn't going to be exposed to anything we do, but does anyone require an NDA just to be on the safe side? (I dont have an in home caregiver yet, but just thinking about it.)

How do you manage the constant school cancellations? Do I need a nanny in addition to daycare?

Going back to work next month. Have a full time nanny but feel like even that isnt enough. I work all sorts of timezones. Europe has my morning, Asia has my evening. Nanny 9-5? 7-3? 10-6? No clue what will work best and don’t want to be inconsistent with her. Any advice on the return?

What are we supposed to do with our kids during Winter break when school is closed for TWO WEEKS and we need to hit our billables?

How do you deal with the stress of knowing that other people on your team are working weekends and you aren’t? I’m a mom with two kids so working in weekends is tough for me. Cont. in comments:

Since this is an open forum where we can be honest, I've assembled a list of billable litigation tasks that can be done from a playground: Conference calls, File review, Fly on the wall depositions where your camera is off, Zoom cattle call status hearings. Any other suggestions?

How many married professionals with young families are just sticking it out “for the kids”? Marriage is very dead and has been for a while. Young kids 4 and 1. My wife and I don’t fight, but share 0 interests outside of the kids and can’t stand to be around each other. I’m so ready to leave… I just can’t bear the thought of doing it to my children even though another part of me feels like wife and I would both be better parents if our lives were separate. Anyone else done a similar analysis?

I’m having trouble transitioning from work to home. What do you guys do to get yourself in the “home” mind so you can be fully present for your kids? What are your transition routines?

Do you pay out of pocket on insurance premiums at your firm? My wife may leave her job to stay home and we’re on her insurance. My firm told me we’re $750/pay period or $18k/yr. that sounds absurd.

Biglaw single parents? I’m a recently single parent. My ex is (almost) completely out of the picture now. Any other biglaw single parents with tips or tricks to making this work on my own?

My wife and I are both terrible housekeepers and our clutter is overwhelming us. We have two kids under 3 and a wonderful nanny but we need more help at home. How do we throw money at this problem? Where do we start to get ongoing professional help decluttering, organizing, cleaning, etc.? What has worked for you?