I’ve been dating my bf for six months and I can see myself with him for the long term. I just realized we have some fundamental differences. He wants kids and also a career where he could travel abroad a bit every year. I don’t want kids but it’s not a deal breaker. If I do though, I cannot have a partner who is away for a few months a year when the kids are young. It would be my nightmare if I were alone with a crying baby for months. Do you guys think this is something that can resolve?

Feeling a deep void in close human connection after letting go a relationship that was lacking a future (I was interested in something more, he was unsure). Can’t stop thinking of reaching out and need strength to just stay with the loneliness and have hope for the better times. Would appreciate support. It’s been 2 weeks but I feel bouts of extreme sadness and desire to have someone to share my life and days with.

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

This is a question about friendships. Two friends got into a really bad fight this past weekend. They have each asked me to hang out this weekend. What do I do? I don’t want to have to choose sides. One is a friend I’ve known a little longer and has been a good friend and so she would feel betrayed and angry if she knew I were still friends with her now-enemy. The other I’ve known less longer, but we seem more compatible. Advice??

Ugh, is that time of year again! Does anyone have any advice on how to handle "friends" and family members who spout conspiracy theories to avoid getting the flu shot

How much time your divorce procedure took?

Does anyone feel bad seeing friends when you’re job hunting? Just feel like I don’t deserve a dinner out and will feel bad comparing myself since they are all doing fine.

I’ve been in a relationship now for two years. We are living together. We talk about the future etc. I could easily see myself marrying her. However, I have an issue… cont

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

I literally cannot stomach to be around my in laws any longer. My wife and I are in neither political camp and we pretty much have the perspective that no matter what the outcome is every 2 and 4 years isn’t going really affect our lives all that great. We just have the attitude that “things happen, but why let that affect our daily happiness?” My in laws are retired, bored, and do nothing but share Fox News videos on Bookface and have just become so angry. (Cont’d)

I read a lot of posts here about difficult bosses, difficult clients, difficult partners, terrible briefs and terrible agencies. All that might be true. But it’s getting old. What I’d be interested in hearing about are the stories of how people have overcome the challenges. How did you sell that big idea? How did you fix a relationship? The world is not going to get easier. So maybe we can help each other get better at dealing with it. Who had a win recently? How did you do it?

My wife and I just had our second child, and we have also been dealing with her cervical cancer diagnosis. It has been a stressful year, to say the least. I want to do something nice for her, but money is tight right now because of the cancer treatment costs, and her being on unpaid leave because of the cancer treatments. What is something low cost I can do that will be a nice “couples thing” so we can de-stress, but also make her feel special?

Woman approaching 40, dated once, LTR once and heartbroken by 32 as I found the man in LTR was cheating on me. Shut my heart completely to ensure never give anyone the power to hurt me. Today I wake up and see years have passed. I have checked off many bucketlist items being single for these years including solo euro trip. But now I feel I can’t go on forever. I just wish I had someone to plant a good morning kiss, like simple things in life. Hard to share these feelings, hence confessing

Anyone know how much a full time nanny in the Austin area would cost?

I could be your next husband. Slide in my DMs to find out.

Stopped a fwb situation. But staying away is so hard. 😔

There’s this guy at work I really like. We’re really really good friends but I’ve caught feels since the day I met him and I just want to tell him how I feel but I don’t want to ruin our great friendship. He’s the closest friend I have.

Is it okay to disappear from friends & family to work on career change goals (several months)? I want to focus and not get distracted by friends & family needs to see me or attend certain things as it takes up a lot of time. If I focus for a short time, I can quickly achieve my goals to switch. I can hangout with them after all of that. What do you think?? Any feedback will be appreciated.

I’m Elizabeth and I’m in Las Vegas. I’ve been teaching ECSE for 14 years and it’s my 18th year teaching (i taught resource for 4 years). I love my littles! Who has taught the toddler crowd?

I just started a new job and am about to be 36. I want to start a family but I feel like I should be waiting due to this new job. However I don’t want to miss out. I’m thinking about freezing my eggs

37 weeks today! We are excited :)) the waiting period is weird though. When will baby come???

I just started parental leave for 12 weeks, but a new job opportunity just came up. What do I do if I get an offer? Do I tell my boss before I come back from leave, or do I just resign on my first day back?

Is a 900k net worth for a single person at almost 40 good or terrible? I see posts from our US counterparts on net worth and salary and feel so behind yet we have such a high COL in Toronto.

Will CSPO help in Product Manager role?

How do you apply design factors to IT Audits. Just overheard someone explain 'level of aggregation' for IT Security policies by describing how many people have access to it. Why is this a thing???

Hey fishes! Need some advice - I’m looking at apartments by Liberty Harbor in downtown Jersey City. I’m seeing mix reviews online. Anyone live/lived there?

What is the *prime* amount of money to bring you happiness?

How can I make $140K and above w/ 5 YOE in operations, program management, client delivery? Worked in NGO for 3 years then consulting for 2 years.

Have efforts to increase diversity in real estate careers been successful, or do you think there is still a long way to go?

I’m quitting my job tomorrow morning. I don’t have a new job lined up. I’m scared, but also excited? I’ve felt under utilized for months, and haven’t had a promotion after two years. I never take risks like this, but life is too short. Is this a bad choice?

I have 3.5 years of experience in DevOps.

Tech stack- Kubernetes, Docker, Jenkins, Terraform, Linux, AWS

Last working day- 14th Oct (servings NP)

It would mean a lot, if you could give me a referral.

Hi Verizon Fishes,

Need your feedback on Verizon India Job security, I will be joining soon in Verizon. I got some negative feedback from social media that Verizon fired around 1000 employees without notice. It should have happened on 2019.

Can you pls share your thoughts on this?

Thanks,

Anyone recently made a switch with 4.5 years of experience in SAP ABAP.
How much CTC other companies are offering at this recession time ?

Hi Fishes,
What is the impact on rating and overall, if I have got all snapshots good but for one snapshot its like at level for 4 parameters and 1 parameter partially demonstrated at level and have got a development action on that. Can you please advise on what will be the repurcussions and how to deal with this situation as the CRT are round the corners. Thanks in advance!PwC

Hi all,

Currently, I am working in TCS and I have offer from CTS. Now, TCS trying to retain me with similar hike offered by CTS.

Is it better to stay back in TCS or move forward with CTS.

I have completed 7.5 years in TCS & my total year of experience is 9.

Please suggest. Thank you!

We’re hiring across the board at KPMG for cyber / cyber risk work - shoot me a DM if interested. (Pays well!)

Is genetic carrier screening prior to starting an ivf cycle necessary? I tested and found some disorders. Now my RE won’t start my cycle until my partner is tested. They are saying they will have to do special PGT tests if we are carriers of the same disorder. I am confused. I thought this type of testing was optional and usually recommended if you are using a donor. My guess is that they are booked and pushing me to the Jan cycle. Thoughts?

Anyone working for Pill Pack (Amazon) willing to talk to me about their experience?

Looking to buy my first house- Would it be a bit of a stretch to buy a house with a mortgage of 2.7k when I take in 3.4k bi weekly?

Anyone at the Q center today/this week?

I’m worried that my voice, communication style, and body language comes across as too effeminate for our straight clients and peers. I’m transitioning to sales now and am insecure that my personality and appearance may hinder sales gen? Client industry is very old school. Can LGBT partners//Ds/MDs chime in how they managed the same transition?

Has anyone been with someone with a really small one? What was your experience like? I recently started seeing someone with the tiniest one I’ve ever seen (like an inch). I’m ok with it, but he’s clearly insecure and I want to be understanding

OK! Confession time. I am a hypocrite. I judge people@if they ghost me on Grindr, at the sametime I do it a lot. I feel ashamed now

Solo trip to Puerto Rico. Any recs? Thanks fam.

Any Deloitte folks going to DU this week?

Almost midnight here and I'm cleaning my medicine cabinet so I can reboot having a regular skin-care routine. I'm listening to one of my favorite musicals, "Ragtime", specifically the song "He Wanted to Say". Living 9 time zones away from home out of the US and watching the BLM movement there, unable to do anything concrete about it from here - this song I've listened to countless times, today about brought me to tears.

I really don’t mean this to virtue signal - just wanted to share a moment.

Do you find that what you find attractive physically has dramatically changed over the years? Everything from body type to facial features I swoon over is so totally different

Any non-cishet male folks want to chat? Missing community right now!

I could be your next husband. Slide in my DMs to find out.

One year in NYC—24, enjoyed myself, but no deep connections with new friends/partners. Came to hopefully open the door on a variety of opportunities, but something tells me that spending another year here will not help that. Money flies, space is cramped, not thrilled with my office, hate winter. I miss LA a lot—I miss driving, the weather, the space, people...but everyone tells me I have to give NYC at least 2 years. Thoughts?

There’s this guy at work I really like. We’re really really good friends but I’ve caught feels since the day I met him and I just want to tell him how I feel but I don’t want to ruin our great friendship. He’s the closest friend I have.

I really love my boyfriend but I think I’ve started to lose the sexual attraction (find myself avoiding wanting to do anything sexually). Anyone have advice or go through something similar? Is it done

How’s it like being gay in Singapore?

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

Someone I’ve started seeing uses they/them pronouns. I’m trying my best but still feel like I make mistakes. When I want to address them is it ok to say how are you or should I say how are they?

I have a PwC Pride sticker, but am afraid to put it on my laptop or water bottle because I don't know how receptive my team or clients will be. Do you guys wear pride gear at werk?

I know I will get hated by saying this. Do you think gay pride events are portraying a bad image about our community to public? (Drugs, sexual, inappropriate clothes, and sometimes like strip clubs- some parts). I know it is right to present us but I just feel it is not the right way to show who we are. I wish the pride where everybody can connect in a more friendly way (outdoor game- team work, dance, drink something not too sexual.) there are some good parts of pride tho. Any opinions?