Just joined a new firm 2 weeks ago. Today one of the directors told me "omg you're so quiet. Didn't even know you're here". Ugh how do you socialize more in a work place? My cubicle is at the end :(

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Try a morning walk-around to catch up with a few folks. Think up a few casual questions to ask them in advance so you’re not nervous about what to say. After a while you’ll get to know those people so it won’t be as hard to engage.

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Try to engage in small talks with people in your team. Small things like identifying things on table and starting conversation about them. Or last night's game, weekend plans, vacation plan. Hope that helps.

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