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Can anyone at Pwc please refer me for the job in the link below:
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Same story for all immigrants. Some stayed some went back. Most still don’t know if it was the right decision. Some are happy with the choice they made, some are not. Boils down to the individual end of the day. You can always go and come back later. Be sure to have kids in the US though.
I grapple with that each day. I plan to just hoarde money for the next 10 years or so and then decide. Working and taking care of parents in India will not be possible with a job in consulting- so may take a break. Let us see. Thankfully don't have a SO or any kids to worry about. Hence for me - my parents are the only family I have and will have. I have already made peace with a lot of decisions in life - the next big one will come soon.
This decision will be the next big one - when and how to move back.
Same boat. I am planning to do what S1 suggested 👆
Work here for another 5-8 years and be in a position to FIRE. Then move to India and take what I see as an “optional 9-5” job to cover basic monthly expenses.
I see it as I am of no use to my parents if I cannot actually take care of them. I know that sounds harsh but obviously not totally true. But still. If I work in India I will grind and not be able to provide same level of support.
Right now they are healthy and active and have have full lives. So this is the best time for me to do the same.
I had the same thinking as this before I married my SO who was an American citizen, and my thinking was that I may never go back to India again.
But parents were very helpful and supportive as we decided to marry. Both my parents had just turned 60 and said something like 20 years of us should not cost you the opportunity of love and happiness that lasts 60 years. We have made it a point to visit once a year and have them over for a few months every year as they are now both retired. Their health concern is an issue especially with COVID, but this was the best we managed to get to.
This is v tough.. I lost my parents and wish I’d move back. On the other hand, I am a minority and didn’t feel safe in india anymore otherwise I would probably have moved back, came very close a couple of times. If it is not a safety or sanity risk, move back but do something that gives you the option to come back.
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They don’t like the option of moving to the US. And my concern is for both my and my wife’s sets of parents. Am I overthinking this?
You are not over thinking this at all. Every first immigrant have lots of choices and sacrifices to make.
at some point you have to decide what your priorities are, make a decision, and be at peace with it. maybe you can set a deadline for yourself, i.e. save up and make the most of next 4-5 years and then go back. alternatively, decide to stay and make efforts to visit parents often or have them visit once a year and then you go once.
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I am able to provide for them because I live here. They visit all the time
I lost my dad in 2019, and was planning to move back since I would never want to be in such situation ever again, but then COVID started so I paused for a bit and eventually moved back end of 2020.
I am single so it was easy for me, would not be as easy for married or married with kids.
Had friends and was involved in social activities too to keep myself engaged, moved back since I was not happy and constantly thinking like OP is.
I earn less now but I am happy now and feel that I made the right decison.
I am in the same boat ... and many of my friends also in similar situation. I can feel your frustration and self guilt.
I am in the same boat. Infact planned to move back to India, for a year or more till this pandemic ends. You can always come back to US or earn more money later. Unless you have bought a house or significant investment, this country doesn’t give you a home like feeling.
Same boat OP, I tenon know it’s just setting the right priorities. Hoping to finalize mine in a month . I wish it was binary
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OP -- same .I wish to make enough , maybe for another 4-5yrs. Married or not, I wish to go back and take care of my parents. I am living with guilt basically not really enjoying full heartedly.
Longer you stay here, lower the probability of you going back. Once you have kids you will never go back. All these people saying I will wait for 5-10 years and go back, never go back. It’s called immigrant dilemma. Once you get green card, there in additional incentive to stay here.
This is true for a lot of people. I never started my GC for 4 years after I was eligible to start it in my company and now need to get it done within the next 2 years.
Thank you for sharing! It is not an easy decision and I agree that it is getting more complicated with every year that I have lived here. We had pretty much made up my mind to leave but the recent COVID crisis gave me and my wife a pause. It just exposed everything that can go wrong in a country like India. But we both feel at peace here close to family.
Not yet.
My son is in 2nd grade I am planning to complete his elementary here then plan yo go back. I agree with comment that more you stay hard to go back but need to take hard step at some point. Also I am planning to get my extension before leaving I have approved I-140 so extn mostly go for 3 years and if I think my move was not right decision I can try to cone back as I will have valid visa. Its lot of planning let's see what will happen after 3 years when I need to make decision.
We all are in the same boat. Every immigrant is. For us Indians the bond with our parents is stronger. My suggestion, either move back soon (next year or two) or don’t. The ten year horizon isn’t good for you since you won’t be able to life your life fully and not good for your parents.
Support you decide not to move, that is ok, don’t feel guilty. Provide the best care to your parents, visit them often, get them to US for short visits. But atleast then everyone knows what the future holds and can plan accordingly
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My parents never stayed with their parents when they moved away for a job. Back then there was no air travel and they met their parents over holidays, etc.
same thing that I do now 😁