Move to be able to pursue a job I’m passionate about that’s in an ok place or stay put where I feel less fulfilled but my husband has a better job and our city has more things to do for us and kids? Want to “do me” but having a hard time pulling the trigger. Husband is leaving the decision to me. He would rather stay here but would be supportive of leaving if I want to.

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University towns are typically really vibrant and fun. And also drunk college kids, but mostly vibrant and fun.

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I just saw your reply. The university town isn’t in Kansas or Mississippi but it’s not Ann Arbor or Austin either. We’d need(want) to do private school.
I keep thinking about all the activities we won’t be able to do. It sounds trivial but we go skiing every weekend in the winter here (we’re 1 hr from skiing) and my kids also take ice skating lessons every week. The university town doesn’t have an ice rink and it’s in the south so no skiing anywhere driving distance. I also worry about climate. I love living with 4 seasons and this town has really just summer and summer light.
On the other hand, the idea of not doing this career I’ve been passionate about my whole life makes me sad. And as you say, it’s not easy to find these jobs. Even adjunct jobs are had to get nowadays with so many tenure-level people out of work.

Jobs come and go but family is more important and so is the city you live in. Would the company let you work remote? If not, can you keep looking for something else remote or in your city?

Location. Location. Location.

Most important in real estate and in life.

It’s actually an academic job, so can’t be remote. The city isn’t NY or LA. It’s a Midwest city (not Chicago) and the dream job is in a university town.

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