My boss won’t stop sexually harassing me. Verbally, email, texts - 400+. He even set up his office with a display of sex toys and edibles condiments to show me that he planned to give me oral sex. All started 3 weeks into the job. I moved my family cross country for this job and just bought a house. He promises me none of his requests or my responses will affect my job and is just begging now to be friends with me. Tell me what would you do if you were me.

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Document, document, document. Save screenshots of every digital interaction and then make sure to back them up somewhere safe from interference (do not rely on work devices and do not use any logins on your work devices — get them onto a personal device and upload them from there. You use recorded audio if you live in a one-party consent state, so Google it and capture some voice notes (back them up) if you’re in one. I’m so sorry this is happening to you and you do not have to put up with it. But you will need to contact a lawyer if you’re financially dependent on this job. The more evidence you can provide, the better off you will be. Good luck.

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Thanks Jordan Harbinger

The fact that you fear for your future ability to be hired because of his actions makes my blood boil. It’s a position many women are put into and that fear is often what keeps them quiet and allows it to continue to them or someone else.

Sue the ever-living daylights out of them. If a firm won’t hire you because you protected yourself and perhaps even others, they don’t deserve you. Take your winnings (I can’t see how you don’t win) and open your own firm or at least not feel pressured into having to settle for a crap-ass firm again right away due to finances.

You said no. He continues. You feel icky. He is your boss. You say he says it won’t affect your job or advancement but clearly it already has if you can’t trust him that it is true and can’t trust yourself to leave and get another one.

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Get another job ….

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Omg, this is horrible. Shocking this guy still has a job because you can’t be the first.

Are you in SF Bay Area by chance?

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Sue him for harassment. It’ll be hard and probably cost a lot of money but if you don’t stand up for yourself who will? He’ll continue this bad behavior.

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He is HR.

Bar association complaint. Don’t threaten out. He may try undermining you. Just file it

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Hire a damn good attorney and sue!

What the hell lol

The whole thing is insane. It’s like he is still living in the 1950s where this should all blow over in time and we will be back to being “friends” and him “helping me advance my career.”

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Record every thing🤔. But that guy has major issues.

Wonder how OP resolved this one. Any update?

Good luck, OP. I’m glad you’re pursuing it and I’m sorry you were treated so badly.

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