My boyfriend left me suddenly. We were supposed to move in together in 2 weeks. And he said he doesn’t want to because he’s scared about the fact that I have depression and that I take medication for it. Up until this point he was gung ho for moving in together. I’m shattered.

Any Indian national recently came to US through the London Heathrow airport.

Parents coming from India and have a layover at London airport. Are there any covid restrictions we need to worry about?

They are fully vaccinated and they will have a negative Covid test 12 hours before the start of the journey.

A sleepy summer Sunday watching the end of a great test cricket match, grabbing a beer with friends and glorious weather. Honestly it is the first day since covid that life feels normal for me

On the topic of intimacy with partners… I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and the past year his libido has dropped to zero. Mostly due to work stress (he says). Whenever I try to initiate, he always shuts me down and says he’s not in the mood. I even touch him and he gets hard but stops me as soon as I try to unzip him. We went from once a week to maybe once a quarter.

I’ve talked to him about it and he says I should take care of myself. So frustrated. 😭😭

Has anyone in nyc been to LM Medical for Botox? In Greenwich village

Curious what % of partners/MDs have spouses who also work. And regardless of non/working spouse, what do you do to feel a work/family balance?

Does anybody have ideas on how to use 2 weeks of vacation during covid? Can’t visit family without international travel, most friends are with their family/SOs and social distancing. Pto is expiring so it’s use it or lose it. Im in NYC. Thank you!

This is our first holiday season in the Nashville area, any suggestions on family activities/light displays we should check out? Our kids our 8, 5, and 3.

where my canadians at? how strict is covid there? my friend is in toronto for work and the hotel found out he has covid. now they’re locking him in his room. is that legal? if so, what’s the protocol to break quarantine? hotel wouldn’t answer 🫠

First post-transfer blood work came back with “ok” progesterone reading. Doc wants to supplement with pills before bed. Any recommendations of how to boost progesterone? Is there something before or after the shot that can be done to increase effects?

Has anyone’s medical provider prescribed femera? I have well documented PCOS and my GYN said I don’t need to wait 12 months for intervention because I have 16 years of documented menstrual irregularities. I just got off my birth control in December. We want TTC starting in my next cycle. Just wanted to hear peoples experience with femera. My whole life I’ve been told it will be a struggle

Hi Fishies, I’m 32yrs old and went with IVF due to male factor. I had 5AA t/f(modified FET) on 11/07, today (11/16)I had blood work, nurse told HCG level is: 168.5, and will be checking again on 11/18, to see if HCG is raising. Is this good value? This is my first time IVF , little worried but again not keeping many hopes and become depressed I’d something goes wrong. Meanwhile trying to stay positive as well.

My mom and dad are separating (bad terms) and not speaking, but my mom asks me about him everyday. She knows I don’t want to talk to him or about him, but continues to bring it up everyday.. I’ve resorted to silence or not responding because I always end up being the bad guy when I get annoyed or don’t want to discuss it. Am I wrong here?

I’m around 21 weeks and have been dealing with a lot of leg, tailbone, back, and general muscle pain. Since I do work long hours Monday- Wednesday (10hr +) I’m trying find a comfortable chair to switch to. Any recommendations? Currently I’m switching every hour or so between my kneeling chair and standing.

We were not trying to conceive. And I was drinking alcohol like twice a week.
Now I missed my period and pregnant. I am panicking a lot, not sure if I want a baby right now. Definitely i cant deal with pregnancy constantly knowing how much u drinking could have affected the fetus and if i could ever endure the consequences it would bring upon the baby
Help me understand if my baby will be fine or not.

When did you tell work about your pregnancy?

Just here to say I’m so thankful we have this safe space. People who aren’t diagnosed generally have misconceptions about ADHD and its symptoms, and I’m so grateful we have this bowl to seek help, learn from one another, and sometimes just vent! With all the negativity in the world, this bowl is that one ray of sunshine I so desperately need, so thank you everyone for what you have done and what you’ll continue to do!

I just started meds yesterday and the change in my focus and attention to detail is mind blowing. My only concern is, just yesterday I had a tough feedback session with my manager around how I’m taking too long to complete my work, giving them anxiety around close deadlines. I’m new in the job (3 months in). Should I explain anything about my adhd to my manager or just wait for them to notice the change in me?

Any good gyms in the West Village/Soho area (excluding Equinox)

Any tips for hard launching partners on social media? For context, I’ve (Indian American female) been dating my white American boyfriend for 3 years and we just got engaged after two years of convincing my parents. They are very happy and excited now, but I’m scared shitless about being ostracized / judged by my extended family and Indian community in the US once I “let the cat out of the bag” on the engagement news. I want to be proud and confident about this but could use some moral support.

Are there any mothers here who voluntarily gave primary custody to the kids father? I love my children fiercely but tbh I don’t think I’m cut out to be a single parent. Family and friends tell me I’m a great mom but at the end of the day having them on my own is exhausting and I end up just either letting them do whatever they want Bc I don’t feel strong enough to set a limit about it, or yelling at them. They’re 4 and 7 for reference. Please constructive responses only. Thank you!

Hey 🐠, what are your recommendations of books, articles, or practice tips to improve communication, both verbal and written? Want to be stronger at running meetings, pitching ideas, writing (cont’d)

RC or MC? I‘m a new hire as a risk consultant (associate) and I originally applied for management consulting, but in the middle of the int process (2nd interview) they asked me if I would mind /cont.

Need advise!! I am L5 Amazonian and been asked to transition into different role/scope of work (in a positive way) in the same function/team. Is it advisable to ask for compensation increase?

I got lowballed an year back. I joined without realizing how the title salary would drag me back. I am stuck in my role and low salary. Any suggestions?

Got a date with a girl I've admired for a while this weekend, where should I take her? Best romantic/fun date spots, ideally with great food or near great food. She has no dietary restrictions as far as I know. Thanks

Has anyone seen the movie Spotlight? It made me think again about the passion to find the perfect news, the one that would be really helpful and necessary to society.

Hi fishes,

I am a c++ developer primarily on linux and qnx. I wanted to get started with the Microsoft Foundation Class (MFC) c++ library used for windows application development.

I don't see options in udemy. Is there a popular YouTube playlist or any other material you would recommend?

Hi Fishes
how's the recession going
is it over so i can think about job change

How is kyndryl's appraisal ?
Usually are they giving to all employees or project wise and how much hike percentage min to max

TIA

Anyone here on a road biking club team etc? Have a bike and want to start (beginner) but would like to in a group setting. Any groups you know of highly appreciated.

Hi Guys, I am notice period with 30 days remaining, having 12+ exp in java, spring boot, microservices. Need the reference for applying to major banks like Credit Suisse, Master card, Barclays, Citi, Deutsche, BOA, JP Morgan etc..
Kindly help...

Have a presentation in front of a large group tomorrow and it's giving me anxiety. Will taking a Xanax help?

Thoughts on Prime Ocean here?

I’m extremely out of shape and have just started going to the gym. When i do squats, like literally by squat 5 my knees are hurting. But i know my form isnt wrong. Do i just have bad knees or is this normal when ur out of shape?

How long after exposure did you test positive / have symptoms? I heard for omicron the time period is shorter

Anyone working at Abbie willing to provide reference? Desperately need one

I haven’t been feeling confident in my work and it’s stressing me the fuck out. How do you deal with this?

K so. My bf just told me he is an atheist. I knew he wasn’t super religious, but our talks before made me think he atleast believed in some sort of afterlife. I know everyone has their own opinion..

Really appreciate this bowl - and this barely matters - but the cover image is quite off putting.

Its my birthday. And nobody knows at my work I feel a bit awkward also first birthday I have to be all alone :/ . New city any ideas to celebrate myself ?:D

Has anyone else noticed they’re stressed without “feeling” stressed? I don’t feel as stressed as when I was in college. However, I’m still on the job hunt and I think stress is manifesting itself without me realizing it. My skin is showing really bad acne, I feel unmotivated even to fill out job applications; I’m having trouble falling asleep at night and even though I sleep past noon sometimes I still feel tired during the day... Is it stress or burnout?

Exhausted by entitled clients that are just plain nasty. Is it just me or are clients everywhere getting more demanding and treating their agencies worse?

Can anyone recommend a bilingual (English/Spanish) therapist in NYC? Manhattan or Brooklyn preferably

I feel like my brain is dying. I can barely think let alone think of good ideas. I’m angry and depressed and it’s consuming my thoughts.

Ever had one of those days where everything is just making you cringe so bad, to the point all you want to do is sit on the ground and cry?

Today is one of those days, and even when I know things will get better or "this too shall pass", I am sad, I can't enjoy whatever good there is...I feel powerless.

Love how i think... 'oooh haven’t been anxious in a while ’ then before bed I start to get anxious... 😩

Any recos for a therapist who:
- is in BK/manhattan
- takes Oxford Health
- is good for treating social anxiety
- is female (preferably but not a game changer)
?

Anybody on Trintellix? Thoughts ?

How do you deal with a boss that wants you to quit and is becoming increasingly more abusive. But you haven’t found a job yet and need this job financially.

I take immense comfort in knowing that chances are, I cross paths with some of you daily. Does anyone else notice this? It’s fascinating.

I need help. I'm dealing with multiple losses in the same week and having a hard time... I took some time off from work but I have no motivation to do anything. I don't want to go back to work and don't care about my work right now. I want to quit but I don't want to make a rash decision but need a long break. It's also not fair to my team that I can't give it my 100%. What can I do?

There’s no reason you have to put up with a job you hate. I spent many years working in a toxic environment with a boss who gossiped and lead through fear. He wasn’t really much of a leader but basically a foreman. And he could make my existence miserable. I admit that it wasn’t easy to find another job but the bottom line is: trust your guts. If you feel something is wrong it’s because it probably is. Don’t second guess yourself. Look for options and and fight for your mental health.

I’m in my late 20s and struggling to find inspiration of what I want to do with my career/ life. Anyone have any good book or movie recommendations that inspired them during a similar time?

I’m riddled with anxiety and emotionally convinced that something bad is going to happen today. It feels like instinct mixed with dread. Does anyone else get this? How do you move past it?

I’m sick of living in NYC but can’t go anywhere.

I’m not having harmful thoughts but I’m so sad and scared I wake up in the night crying. It makes me tired and I can barely focus. Ideas?