My boyfriend of 4 years didn’t Give me anything for my birthday … am I crazy that this upsets me so much, one week later he asked me to go buy a gift for his friends kid birthday and another few days later he was telling me how him and his friends organized to buy their other friend a big birthday present …

Does anyone know if we can reimburse expenses for items listed in Wageworks while on maternity?

I know we cannot expense phone/internet/ commuter benefit as I am not actively doing work.

However, for other items that fall under wage works reimbursement, I couldn’t find anything in writing yet.

If you could go back and start over would you still choose this path? Or would you choose a different career and/or a different time to have children? I accidentally became a working parent in law so while I love my job and my children I don't think I would have planned it quite like this.

Any parents who are still on the safe side with Covid? We have a 1 year old and being safe and staying mostly home is really getting to me. Most of our friends have kids who are able to mask up or are vaccinated and it’s getting quite isolating. Especially now mask mandates are being lifted feeling like we can’t go anywhere without risking our kid.

Going back to work next month. Have a full time nanny but feel like even that isnt enough. I work all sorts of timezones. Europe has my morning, Asia has my evening. Nanny 9-5? 7-3? 10-6? No clue what will work best and don’t want to be inconsistent with her. Any advice on the return?

It’s been six weeks since he broke up with me and I feel like I’m still in shock. Like I’m in a nightmare I can’t wake up from. I just can’t believe he left me when he always said he never would.

Anyone ever considered contractor gig in Meta/Facebook or any other big players in tech? I'm full-time in a smaller company and it's pretty stable. Wondering if the move could be worthwhile. Mostly want to explore other areas. Other things to consider: planning for babies in the next 3-5 years; maternity leave in current position is basically what's legally required.

Am I going crazy? I feel like my close friend is always trying to “one up” me in conversation. Any time I make a point, they will go out of their way to prove I’m wrong with some sort of stat or evidence. It’s like they need to have the last say.

They try to make me look bad at times without noticing. I don’t know how to approach this as we are all in a pretty tight friend group.

Has anyone had experience with a break up while working in big law? Facing some problems, largely on account of my schedule. Just want to ask if anyone has experience going about it while maintaining performance and well being?

Got PIP'ed at Amazon Ops for some really unjust reasons. Applied for an internal role, and the leadership team did not like it. Within next couple days, I got PIP'ed. Anyway, I am on visa and have a year old baby girl to feed. Need help in getting referrals please.

YoE 11 (MS Mech Engg, MBA)
Comp $150k
Location Michigan (Open to remote roles or other areas)

I feel stuck. This job is hard. Feels like lots of people piling on while I’m away from home and my SO. It would be nice to feel more supported and have less toxic clients.

My anxiety has been relatively constant during this whole wfh covid situation so I haven’t been wanting to be intimate with my partner as often. They said its bringing down their mood, any advice?

My friend invited me to hang out with her and her friends because I was feeling very sad about my breakup. Three of her friends end up hitting on me and just really invading my personal space. I honestly thought they had a joke or game of some sort. I tell my friend it makes me uncomfortable because it’s not something I’m looking for atm. She says I should take it as a compliment, but the only thing I feel is disgust that I now have to look forward to guys only wanting me for my body 😔

My marriage is beyond repair I think. Husband just said we keep having the same conversations over and over in the past year about things we’ve been trying to fix. Is a year enough time? 11 years together for reference. And I don’t think his statement is true - he literally mentioned one of those things last week that he was happy about. I just can’t do it with these vague statements in arguments.

Big Law Dads: How much time do you usually take off when your wife has a baby? And do you actually get to take off, or do you just end up working from home half the time? My wife is due Mid-December, and I’m staffed on 4 M&A deals trying to close by year end, so it’s not looking promising.

I have an estranged relationship with my sister. I haven’t had a relationship with her in 13+ years, and haven’t even seen her in about 5 years. We had a really bad falling out and I never really carried for her as a person. But for some reason I feel an immense guilt for not wanting a relationship, simply because of this convoluted idea of family and sticking together no matter what. Anyone else have this issue? How do I go about making peace with someone I don’t want nothing to do with?

Do you think marriage is necessary? Why do we need the law to regulate the relationship? Isn't being committed emotionally enough? Would like to get different perspectives from both women and men.

**Can I take retirement?**
Hi All,
I have around 29 Lac savings + 5 Lac gold.
And my wife has 28 Lac gold(wedding gift) + 80 Lac(ancestral) Land.
We have a child, his current age is 2 years+
Currently our monthly expenses are around 22k(max), and my CCTC is 15 LPA+ with 8+ YOE.
My age is 29! I don't feel like working anymore.

People who have transitioned from consulting to industry or an objectively less demanding role (i.e working 40-45 hrs a week), what makes you feel good about your decision? After a decade in client services, I’m reaching a breaking point and can’t see consulting being sustainable with a young family. But I’m so achievement-driven that I’m having a hard time taking my foot off the gas; I know seeing peers advance once I’ve stepped away will be hard. For context, I’m F and ~8 yrs away from Partner

Hi fishes
A known of mine with 8 years of experience in a leading US Bank industry got an offer from

EXL as AVP/Engagement manager at credit for fintech clients (42+5 LPA)

and

Accenture strategy as Manager in operations for banking (40+3 LPA)

Which one should he go for?
Any suggestions?

Did Pinterest lift their ban on advertising branded/unbranded pharma? It got brought up in a brainstorm today and almost spit out my coffee...

Hi all, i plan to stick with tax ( public acct) till senior and will apply for private role with a hope that i can start to do part time tax prep. Any thoughts or advice?

Hello Everyone,
I recently shifted to Boston with my girlfriend. Hoping to connect and meet new peeps. We basically are fresh out from our grad school and started working in analytics domain. Love to have few people to chill and experience new city. DM or comment to connect

Any marriott hilton fast track promo?? No SPG around where Im traveling

What is an average salary of a Human Resources manager at a hotel? HR generalists get paid hourly as far as I know

Anyone have any insight into Capital One’s Capital Markets analyst position? I have an interview for it on Friday. Recruiter says it’s entry level (which I’m okay with) and the description says it’s an IB position. I was unaware capital one even had an IB division?

Thoughts from any insiders at havas? Is there appetite for good work, how has the agency adjusted to COVID, are there any new openings on accounts?

What's up with the aggressive driving in Seattle?

If an employee files a complaint about workplace behavior, do you treat them differently? I'm faced with reporting an SM for bullying and finding it near imposible to believe that it won't (cont'd)

Did Republicans think this through? Are they assuming they’re now powerful enough they can stop the electoral reaction to this? I’m seeing people radicalizing in real time across my social networks. Republicans supporting Biden. Formerly moderate Democrats coming out in favor of court-packing.

Was this all really worth it?

For C3B band what the average monthly and quarterly variable payout % in TCS

I live in a no-income tax state but work for a company in NYC. I’m getting taxed around 15k bc NY requires remote workers to pay NY taxes. What would you do?

I work with someone who always makes subtle digs at my code. Like they’ll say good job… and then they’ll say there’s space to refactor/improve code quality and we can handle that later. I get that you can always improve code but it’s so irritating. Any advice?

Does any Googler want to do a mock interview with me for system design?