Need some support. My boyfriend’s father died on the day we were supposed to fly to Las Vegas and go on a 4-day roadtrip for our first Valentine’s Day together. We cancelled all our plans, I helped him arrange logistics so he can fly back to Belgium the next day. It hurts me so much to see him grieve. I am left in CA, give him his space and talk to him when he calls and I make sure that I don’t show that I feel sad that he is both physically and emotionally distant

Did yall hear about the Chicago mom who had her kid taken away because she wouldn't accept that her child was transgender? As a parent, that's actually kind of scary that the government would that with no basis of abuse or neglect. Smh

Hello!
I'm italian, 26 yo and currently working in France as financial analyst.
Work environment is great, friendly and multicultural but I don't like the job at all.
Personal life is not so nice since I manage to see my family and gf every 30/45 days only. Colleagues have their own lives and at the end we don't hang out much.
My dilemma is:
A) going back to Italy at a lower salary with less growth opps but better personal life or
B) Switching my job here and hold on

What would you do?

Thx! :)

I am pregnant and don’t feel pregnant most of the time. I’m only 6 weeks so have to wait awhile before any visual confirmation. And then you worry about all the ones after that before 24 weeks or so. How do you cope? I am trying to be positive. I’ve had a miscarriage before so I’m nervous as well. I try some calming meditation and things like head massages but that lasts an hour tops!!

Should you gift your GF who has kids but not with you something for Mother’s Day? 👀 if yes what’s a good gift that’s not over involved ? (Not flowers or chocolates 🙄).

Can anyone suggest me what can I gift my mom on this mother's day? She's a 50+ house maker. It has to something I can order online in India directly from US.

TIA!

#NTA #Sugesstion

Should you get married to a girl who ask you to relocate after marriage and tells you to divide all household work like a roommate. Also reluctant to cooking.

It’s a arrange marriage, girl wants to do job at Gurugram only and want to relocate to it. I am currently living in Delhi with my family and my job location is Noida.

Does anyone know if we can reimburse expenses for items listed in Wageworks while on maternity?

I know we cannot expense phone/internet/ commuter benefit as I am not actively doing work.

However, for other items that fall under wage works reimbursement, I couldn’t find anything in writing yet.

Any 40+ women here interested to make new friends? 40+ man here.

Has anyone ever been to the Alo Restaurant? I have never been there myself but I was wondering if this would be a good setting to propose?

I'm a product engineer and it's hard to turn off work mode at the end of the day, I think of how products *should* be packaged when I'm shopping and can't understand why my wife doesn't care 🤷

Has anyone changed your project after being selected in Jan. DCA?

So, after a year of not so quietly making it known that I wanted to make the transition from the tech side to the business side I have officially been extended an offer to take on a Project Manager internally (coming from a software configurer). The client I have been assigned to has many of our products, however, the specific project I have been assigned to is a problem child and has damaged the companies relationship with the client. Any advice for a new, young PM being shoved into a problem?

Please remember, when you’re asking for salary information, it’s important to mention where you are located. For example, $100,000 is going to be a lot more in Mississippi than in San Francisco. Thanks guys.

What big 4 have the best maturity and paternity leave policies?

I’ve been married for a while now (5+ years) but feeling completely checked out. My wife has zero conflict resolution skills and can’t control her anxiety, so we constantly bicker if I ever do anything that offends her, and she wants to spend all her time talking about the constantly changing projects she will never start. I can’t ever talk about anything that worries me because she just freaks out. We have kids and she has no ability to earn money so leaving would be impossible financially

Getting over heartbreak and having a full time job is torture lol. My boyfriend and I just broke up after almost a year of being together. It was such a beautiful relationship but ultimately he just didn’t love me. I love him so much. My mind knows that I deserve reciprocal love and I’m worthy, but I feel physically ill. My body hurts, my stomach is in knots, my head hurts. How is it that I have to mend a broken heart but also meet my billable hours lmao

Misled on Maternity Leave Policy. I found out I only get 4 weeks pay for maternity leave (STD +“sick days”). I will take 12 weeks but wont get paid for 8 weeks. I work for a US, west coast based company in the tech/VC industry. Their website claims to offer “paid parental leave and other progressive benefits for parents”. I didn’t find out until after I was hired their pay was only 8 weeks but since I have been at the company less than 12 months, I don’t qualify for their policy. Is this unfair?

Hey Fishes,
I have gotten an offer from Infosys BPM with 15% variable. How much % of the variable can I expect to get? And, on what factors is it dependent?

Any advice for a 3rd year risk assurance associate looking to break into a consulting role? I feel like I don’t quite have the tech experience (knowledge of SQL, Java, etc. ) and i don’t quite have the accounting knowledge being that we’re in IT. . Anyone make the switch ? What advice would you give ? Anything I should try to learn now or any transferable skills you leveraged? Anything would help!

Not too long ago, I was promoted and received a bonus - would I have to pay back the bonus if I leave the firm?

It's not your knowledge but your imagination that can make you exceptional.

A significant chunk of my team members are permanently leaving Seattle and still collecting Seattle pay checks. They are basically making a ton more now in terms of what's in their bank accounts, and I'm thinking maybe I should move. It's just, what if I move and then don't stay at this company, and the next job pays way less?

Considering an offer for Product Manager at Home Depot. Any insight?

Healthcare consulting practice. Deloitte vs Accenture vs other players. Thoughts on who has the best practice overall?

And any insight/who has the best practice in the provider space specifically?

Hi Fishies,

Please give some advice/input , Need to know the names of good Product/Service based organizations which have good WORK LIFE BALANCE, Good Environment to work.

Skills : C# .Net Developer, WPF/WCF.

Anyone at Google willing to give out a referral? I’m looking at some Product/Strategy roles. DM me.

Has anyone got retained by Mphasis due to external offer? If yes, please tell me when did you get the revised offer letter(after or before revoking resignation) and how much time it took? And did they fullfill your promise?

Is it true that less than 20% of engineers are women, even when there are so many programs specifically focused on getting females into STEM fields? It seems like it should be more evenly distributed

Have you ever failed to deliver? What was it and why?

Why does EY not sponsor internationals working under CPT for one day masters program? Can we all ask for the firm? Or at least provide a better GEOC program.. They will send us to a random country..

Hi all, my name is Alex and I just joined the bowl :)
Im graduating in may with a BS in Industrial Engineering. Ive also held a Data Analyst Internship for 1 year with a small construction company. Anyone have advice where this combination of education and experience would make me most competitive in terms of roles/companies?

What are M7 MBB recruiting timelines ? Considering applying right now to MBB, but if I get rejected I’m going to do an MBA, will I be blacklisted from applying for summer internships if I get rejected this fall ?

I’ve been depressed for years now and this past week I lost a dog I’ve had for 15 years; he was one of the only bright spots in my life and I’ve just found it so hard to focus or motivate myself on anything after this. I genuinely feel like I’m at rock bottom, Idk if I’m crazy to feel that way bc of a dog but I used to be able to control this and put up a front but now my depression and anxiety are starting to leak into my work conversations completely unintentionally, I wish this would stop :(

Dad got laid off. Drinking got worse. Attempted assault on sis and mom. Had to put up in hotel. No clue on next steps (legal and personal). Project is complete shit show and SM is not getting it. Idk man...

I know that feedback culture is part and parcel of consulting, and I feel it is contributing to my anxiety and depression. At the same time, i enjoy the problem solving aspects and don’t want to do a career change.
Anyone having the same problem? What have you done to help yourself cope with the culture?

How do you know when it's time to break up with your therapist?

Has anyone dealt with a therapist not being able to see you (virtually) while you are temporarily located in another state? I’m struggling with coordinating my work and when I’ll be in my home state with my sessions because apparently I can only be seen when I’m physically in my home state. Are there different types of lisences I should look for that would allow someone to treat me while traveling? It’s all very confusing…

Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with discrimination as an Asian in the workplace? In my company it seems like it’s a white boys club where and they just promote white ppl because they’re white. And then they have a lower bar for promotions for minorities (traditional minorities likes Hispanics and African Americans). Meanwhile they make Asians do all the work. I am not generalizing that this is how it is everywhere but it definitely is that way in my workplace. Any advice?

You learn who actually didn't consider you a friend/someone in their life based on wedding invitations. It's loud and clear.

Bitter? No. Entitled? No. Maybe taken aback, putting things into perspective. Realizing the friendship was only temporary. You were there when they needed you, but they didn't consider you an actual friend at all.

More like an afterthought.

If only I had a partner. I would have so much confidence to take the world head on. The confidence I have when I’m in a relationship is just mind blowing. Such a cycle.

I’ve been working on making small conversations to strangers as a way to manage my social anxiety and to try to meet people the old-fashioned way, but it’s so nerve-racking. Any tips?

Is anyone utterly confused about what they want to do long-term?

Just started Zoloft. Can I drink? I know it’s I’ll advised, but will it destroy my liver or just add to the depression?

I have been faking and slacking for last 2 years. I am not being pushed and challenged at work. Nobody bothers to follow-up on my work. I take my sweet time to do the bare minimum. I took a break for depression and came back . Still I didn’t have the enthusiasm to do the work.Should I just quit and figure out what I really want to do ?

Why does my therapist make me feel worse almost every time after therapy? Is this for real ?

Folks, has anyone encountered anxiety twitching and how did you deal with it? Apparently there is a term for this when I googled, I get nervous easily in general and started having face twitching from time to time in vid calls, which was so awful even tho I tried my best to hide 😭

My mood has been fluctuating so much lately. Some days (yesterday) I wake up feeling invincible and some days (today) want to hide myself the rest of the world and feel like nothing will ever get better. I’m trying to push myself to make plans with other ppl and am really self-conscious about it cuz I don’t want ppl to see me in low spirit.. any ideas on how to fix that?

How does everyone manage SAD during the winters. Feeling so down and not sure what are the best ways to cope.

I was trying to figure out what my personality trait was a few days ago. It’s depression, my personality trait aside from work is depression

Losing my self esteem and self confidence that I am not able to recognize humans. Anyone can come I my life , fool me and screw up my life, ruin it. Upset about why I’m emotional person.

I am done trying to pretend everything is fine at work. The higher ups on the team kept asking if I’m doing anything fun for the weekend during video calls. I felt the pressure to make something up but I just can’t. I’ve been struggling with depression, loneliness, anxiety with immigration and the fact that I might be out of work soon cuz my visa is expiring. I’m thousands of miles away from my family and I just want everything to stop. But when my manager kept asking in front of everyone am I