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'An Empirical Analysis of Racial Differences in Use of Police Force' by Roland Fryer
Link to study:
https://scholar.harvard.edu/fryer/publications/empirical-analysis-racial-differences-police-use-force
Some bullets:
- Blacks 53% more likely to experience any use of force relative to 15% for whites
- All controls available, officers 46.6% less likely to discharge firearms before being attacked if suspect is black.
- Black officers are more likely to shoot unarmed whites, relative to white officers.
- Blacks are 21% less likely to report voluntary interaction with police than whites.
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Can you give an example? May have some response ideas. I usually lean to making one sharp call-out on the spot, like “Sorry, I didn’t under at and that. What exactly do you mean by xyz” and watch them stammer as they back track, or a sharp “How is that helpful?” when given backhanded or rude opinions. Then I go to flat out ignoring them. 😬
Ugh. Sounds irritating. I think for yourself, a sharp response saying something like “thanks, glad I can be an inspiration to you” can catch them by surprise and maybe give them a hint that you’re not going to just take backhanded comments. For the managers, I’d just stay out of it though I feel for you and how annoying it could be. If they make it a habit of complaining about it with you or in team settings, I’d throw out something like “I’ll let the managers know you feel like you’re falling behind so they can help” or “If it’s really a problem, you should tell the managers/HR” and leave the conversation or change topic. I think the best you can do is push her in a direction of 1) you don’t want to hear it and 2) complaining to you or your team is unproductive if they don’t want to actually do anything about it.
I usually say “Oh yeah? Well, the jerk store called and they’re running out of you!”
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Agree with VP HR above, would love to know context and examples.
Over the years I'm come to the conclusion that these things often result from misunderstandings and poor communication. Sometimes it takes two to create such a situation. Sometimes it's misinterpretation. And sometimes the person is just a jerk with low EQ.
Good luck getting things resolved.
If you're at similar levels, perhaps have a chat with them to explain how some of their comments can come across as being a bit rude or misplaced. Sometimes, they may be trying to be funny or jokey and don't realise the impact. If that doesn't work, then I'd agree with above posts and bite back to stop them in their tracks.
I have come from a very similar situation prior where a coworker, a peer, same level, was doing the same thing to me. What I did was I pulled them aside in private and asked them if I had done anything incorrectly to initiate those types of comments, placing myself in the subordinate level if I had made an error with some thing I’d said, something I’ve done. That immediately worked with the peer, they immediately told me I had done nothing wrong and they were sorry and that it would never happen again and it never did. That’s a different tack that you can take. That has always worked for me.
I’m pretty sure that folks from the south nailed this one a while ago. Look at the person, blink slowly, then say with all the sincerity you can muster “oh, bless your heart” and walk away.