Old manager whom I am good with is interviewing someone in my network. That someone is reaching out to me for help. I don’t particularly like this person as he was rather cold in my own job search so I kinda want to screw him over. Am I being petty? Should I just ignore him?

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Just ignore. You don’t have to help.

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Don’t say or do anything to screw him over unless he chronically commits crimes of moral turpitude or does other things that could negatively impact the old manager you have a good relationship with. But you don’t have to help or say anything nice about him, either.

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I have become an increasingly bitter person with time and would likely ignore.

But the right thing to do would be to help him and hope he pays it back in the future or pays it forward at least.

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This person might come back as useful later, you never know.

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Is that person competent and good at their job? Someone your manager friend would enjoy working with? That's really the only question that matters here.

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Enjoy the petty feelings and write out all the ways you would like to screw him over (so you can live it in full detail). Then either a) ignore or b) indicate that you’re not comfortable helping him. You never know if he was cold for a reason (was he really? Did you just interpret that?) - but no reason to act out. We have enough negativity in the world right now :)

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Be an adult and don’t screw him over. It’s easy to ignore the request and move on. Although I know the feeling and there are a few people in my past that would be tempting. Most professional circles are small worlds so you never know, you may end up working with or for that person in the future.

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Agree. Also to be fair I’ve had people with whom I felt mediocre about at one point in my career turned out to be great advocates of mine later on. And vice versa.

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Don’t be petty don’t screw them over but don’t help.

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