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This same thing happened to my husband and me. I went to my parent’s house for the week. 1. Our apartment was a little less crowded and they didn’t feel uncomfortable since it was just their son 2. I got to be with my parents and work on the last few remaining items on my to-do list. My mom was able to take care of me while I handled the last few stresses about the wedding haha 3. I didn’t have to sacrifice my sleep quality and had access to a bed 🤷🏻♀️
Maybe it’s a cultural difference but you’re already being helpful and caring by allowing them to stay at your place. I think it’s totally reasonable to offer them your couch or air mattress. Make sure you have enough bedding and towels for them too.
As someone who prioritizes sleep, I would not give up my bed the week of my wedding. That week was super stressful for me. If your future spouse isn’t willing to budge, then I’d say going to the destination early is reasonable. Plus less sleep might mean worse mood or more bags under your eyes
Oh wow, yeah definitely understand not wanting to spend more money to put them up elsewhere. It might also be good to set expectations with your spouse going forward on which guests (if any) would get your bed once married when visiting.
Do you have the budget to put them in a hotel or an airbnb? Perhaps have a friend who will be on vacation that week and wouldn’t mind letting you use their place for your in laws? I agree that it feels stressful to be displaced for the week, and I do think it’s ok to have them on a pull out couch but not an air mattress
This! Do you have a friend who has a guest room?
I think since the parents don't have the means to stay at the hotel, you don't want to make them feel uncomfortable by staying elsewhere. In my family it would be common to offer your room to your parents out of respect. Understand that it's your wedding week but they would realistically be there to sleep for the few hours of the night. If the night before is important maybe it's something to talk about. You'll especially need stuff from your room. My wedding is coming up in 2023 and I already know my room is going to be given to a grandparent or an older relative. You're not being selfish, just something you do as a courtesy and out of respect
If finances are tight, can you crash with a friend and he takes air mattresses parents bed? That way you get friends support to help finalize last minute things (grooms are useless anyways lol).
Is it expected we give up our bed/room, or is that giving up too much? Should I travel straight to the wedding destination the week prior to avoid all of this? Not sure if that would seem anti social. The parents definitely do not have the means to pay for a hotel or anything.
Can you as the bride stay somewhere else maybe in the week leading up? It is a stressful week and alone time could be helpful.
We got the in-laws an Airbnb when they were in town for our wedding. I think it’s disrespectful to have them sleep on our couch, and certainly I wouldn’t have done that with my own parents. And I also didn’t want to not sleep in my own room and lose privacy, so an Airbnb worked out well. It ended up more economical I think since we ‘splurged’ on an Airbnb that is much bigger than our apartment, we ended up spending more time there and his parents cooked, so we didn’t spend much eating out or on other entertainment.