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Your friend likely knows that you have no idea how it feels to be trans, and doesn't expect you to help her/him/them/etc. in a direct sense. Try doing some research into therapists/counselors that help with trans topics, and ask them if she/he/they/etc. would like help with setting up an appointment. You can also recommend local/online trans community events she/he/they/etc. can go to and talk with others who may be able to empathize personally! Above all, validate and be there for the person. Also, I believe the word you are looking for is heterosexual or cisgender, not heteronormative 😊
MTF, 3 years into my transition. And while I don’t know what it’s like for your friend, I can relate in some ways.
In my first year, I had a lot of doubts and questioned whether I had made the right decision. I had gone from one form of being alone to another - at first it was a secret I couldn’t share with anyone, and then there was the fallout. My family don’t accept me (but are slowly coming around), my dating pool shrank to almost nothing, and friends, who were supportive were few and very busy with their lives. Every conversation with my mum ended in tears at both ends of the phone line. And I constantly questioned whether all the pain I was causing and the feeling of being alone were worth it.
I have an incredible psychologist that has helped me work through this, and my transition has not slowed a bit. And I would strongly recommend that your friend see one that specialises in working with gender diverse and trans persons (if she isn’t already).
Loneliness may or may not be a contributing factor for your friend, but I’m sure that knowing she isn’t alone and that there are people that care would help. She is lucky to have you as a friend, and needs to be shown that she isn’t alone. A little love and empathy can make all the difference.
I’m happy to connect with your friend if that would help. I won’t be of much use for advice, but as someone that can relate to much of what she is going through, I would love to help if I can.
Great question—probably not with one easy answer. How far along in the process is your friend? Do they have a big support network and are they talking to other people about it? Sometimes I think in situations like this listening and being empathetic and supportive are small acts that can mean a lot—sometimes people just need to be heard or have someone who can be a sounding board.
I am not sure this is the right place to look for advice but would love to hear stories or thoughts on how to best support them as they’re is going through understanding who they are. I am available to hear and help but feel i can’t do much and wish I could.
Transition is complete (started about a decade ago), no family support (siblings didn’t accept the change) and they do not make public to people who didn’t know them before. I am one of the few that know and they just disclosed to me doubts about having made the transition. I met them the transition was already well underway and had no idea how they felt.
Which was it? MTF or FTM? Reason I ask is because one is easier to trans back from, which is FTM. The interesting thing about this is most have to go through some psychological testing prior to surg.
MTF. I have zero experience so don’t even know how to discuss options, decisions, etc. any guidance is greatly appreciated.
ATK, this got completely lost and I had never seen your response until the bowl leader tagged this post today. Thank you for your thoughtful response and the offer to connect with my friend. I don’t know how she’d feel about this (or even how to bring it up) as I know she is very private about this topic, but I appreciate your response.