So been seeing a guy for almost five months and I always sleepover to his place but now I realized he would never come to mine, and he finally admitted he can’t sleep without his cat, I am just curious what this means, is this a trauma thing? Why would someone not be able to sleep without their pet at night ? I don’t want to take it person but makes me feel like he’s not comfortable with me yet

I’m in SF but nervous to officially come out to my friends even though I’m sure they all know/assume anyway. :(

Any tips for hard launching partners on social media? For context, I’ve (Indian American female) been dating my white American boyfriend for 3 years and we just got engaged after two years of convincing my parents. They are very happy and excited now, but I’m scared shitless about being ostracized / judged by my extended family and Indian community in the US once I “let the cat out of the bag” on the engagement news. I want to be proud and confident about this but could use some moral support.

Does anyone here work for Axiom or know someone who does and, if so, how difficult is it to stay fully engaged?

How have you combated your fear of rejection? I fixate on such small things as when my friends, for example, reject plans I have made. This definitely makes me more averse to putting myself out there and makes me ruminate on past perceived failures, which are clearly not good for personal growth

Does anyone have ideas for social distancing little kids walking in line? Teaching personal space in moving lines is difficult in normal years, but this year I don't know how I will get them to keep a 6ft. distance as they walk.

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

Dear crypto and other investments,

I have come to the realization that I absolutely do not want to work for the rest of my life. I would much rather spend my time living it up with my gf and the boys, traveling the world and living my life. Therefore, I am counting on you to not be an endless disappointment and come through clutch.

Love, someone who will go full office space if you fail me.

So let’s say if someone’s father / very close relative was very high up in the government of India in Delhi. How does that person go about leveraging his / her relationships, legally, to do something in India? Would you rather do that or stay in the US in consulting?

Today is my first day back at work (and first full day back in my physical office) after a few weeks off for parental leave. Needless to say, I am struggling to stay focused on anything other than wanting to go back home to my spouse and child.

I know I shouldn't take an emotional temperature on day one, but it has been more difficult being back than I anticipated. Any tips for navigating the waters for the first day/week/month back?

Can a sex less marriage survive if everything else is as great as a couple can have in realistic and non filmy scenario.

Do friends ever dump you onto your therapist or psychiatrist or dismiss your valid, normal feelings as “oh did you tell your doctor about this?” I feel like they’re just shitty friends delegating off.

Only divorce services for uncontested and amicable divorces

Just got divorced after being separated for a year. Any suggestions for places to go and meet new folks?

Are there any mothers here who voluntarily gave primary custody to the kids father? I love my children fiercely but tbh I don’t think I’m cut out to be a single parent. Family and friends tell me I’m a great mom but at the end of the day having them on my own is exhausting and I end up just either letting them do whatever they want Bc I don’t feel strong enough to set a limit about it, or yelling at them. They’re 4 and 7 for reference. Please constructive responses only. Thank you!

I broke up with my EX mainly because the relationship with my child and her was not the best, it sucks but I have to look out for my child, So far I am able to do the things I can do now. It is not the I am not Hoeing around but the simply fact that I can hang out with friends and go watch my son play baseball is a great feeling now. I feel at peace now, in somewhat of pain because of the breakup but I am at peace now.

So who here visited the Chicago Yacht Club at Open House Chicago and decided they wanted to grow up to be an old white guy? 🙋🏻

My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 8 months now. We talk every single day online and recently I went to visit her for around a month. It was great and it seemed like the relationship was stronger than ever. But one week back after visiting her, I felt a strange detachment from her and our conversation topic got repetitive and stale quick. Any advice?

Working from home in customer support provides so much flexibility as a stay at home mom. I can take care of the home, my babies and work without feeling guilty ….talk about mutli-tasking!

How to overcome a breakup. I'm heartbroken 😭

I’m so miserable every day is painful. I want to go tell pre-law school me it’s not worth the debt because you will hate this career and then feel trapped by the debt. And then I want to come back to present day, quit this life-leeching, soul-sucking job and start over doing something else entirely. Too much? Oh well. Thank you for coming to my TED talk.

I'm going from working at a non IT industry to an IT firm. As an introvert I've faced a lot of difficulty in my career... Now since I'm also shifting to another industry completely, I'm feeling very insecure about my life at work. Please give me tips on how to make friends and be in the good books of the managers.

Hi, What's the scope for Java developer in Tata Elxsi?

Anyone know where I can rent a small boat for 2-4 hours relatively cheap? TIA

More people are jumping to social media as an effective customer service tool. Why? 1) Email support takes forever. 2) No one wants to read the help page anymore. 3) It's a hit or miss getting in contact with great sales rep

What are the Designation level at HSBC GSC for Hyderabad location. What is the band for Assistant Manager

Hey all, I’m starting a new job soon (in 2 weeks to be exact), but I haven’t been contacted by the firm. Should I be concerned?

Anyone working on Digital Front Door strategy? I'm building this out for my practice right now. Would love to connect.

I have an offer from Siemens as Product Manager and Stellantis(Fiat Chrysler Automobiles) as Technical Lead in Data Science domain. Salary is almost same in both organizations. Can you help me out in choosing the best considering Work Life Balance and salary hikes. Thanks in advance.

What is the standard yearly hike in IT Security industry in North America? I have worked for 7 months in Threat Intelligence in a company in Canada, and I got a yearly hike of just 3% in my first appraisal cycle. My manager says that you get 3% when you are meeting expectations but not going above and beyond. Is this the standard or am I being underpaid? According to me, I haven't gone above and beyond every day, but there are some things I did work on exceptionally well.

Tax loss harvesting question- I have a few underperforming investments (stocks and ETFs) that I’m looking to offload at a loss. If I sell them I would be incurring a loss of around 3-5k. Contd.

Bonjour à tous

Hi,

Quel est le salaire d'un SM/Director chez Accenture (Strategy & Consulting) ?
J'ai 11 ans d'xp, je peux visier Director ?

Merci

Hello tout le monde
Entre bearingpoint et wavestone, quel cabinet conseilleriez-vous ?
Quel est le salaire pour un senior consultant (4ans d'exp) sur Paris ?
Mercii !

Suggestions for New England road-trips/sightseeing? Going to be there for three weeks until mid October.

Started a marketing company trying to figure out how to actually get my clients on the first page on Google. Any advice?

Help!! My bestfriend is doing two months abroad and was trying to fly into turkey when they told her she couldn't because her passport expired within three months.

She went to the US Embassay in Athens knowing she had a month left of traveling, and gave her an emergency passport and punched holes in her exsisting one. Now no country will let her in with her emergency passport.

Can her mom get her a passport in the US and ship it to her? Is there anyway around this?

Thank you!!

Hi all I have 7 years of experience in Banking operations Internal audit and internal control, risk and control framework, Thematic review. AML/KYC aspects review, transaction monitoring, compliance reviews, CDD and STR reporting. Please refer me eagerly looking for a change. Preferable location hennai and Bengaluru.

Guys once u start getting letters for tax pls ping here, not sure if today also tax people will get letters

So my partner and I been dating for 5 months. But he's a man of literally very few words. What can I do to connect with him on deeper level, or any suggestions of questions I should ask him? To get know him better or to open up

How do you know if you have good hygiene? my ex told me I don’t

This is my routine:
- I have curly hair, can only wash it once a week/put dry shampoo if needed
- I brush my teeth 2 times a day
- Wear deodorant / perfume every day (my way, and good girl) and shave off any hair (I did laser but still), as much as possible. Some days, I cannot keep up with shaving (especially if it won’t show)
- I wear pantyliners and change it once a day/ change panties once a day
- I shower my body every day

Alright so I have been with my partner for several years and recently she said that she wants to get married. Im Happy with what we have now and don't feel the need to get married. Why do people get married? People all around us are getting married and engaged and I feel like that is weighing on her but when we drown all that out and it's just us we are happy!

I want to spend $10k on a cruise to Antarctica. My wife doesn’t want to go and doesn’t think I should spend the money either. I make 200k and she makes 65k. I worked hard to get a 37k hot skill bonus from all the certs I studied for. We are recently married. I’m discouraged because I feel like I can’t save and spend my money the way I did before. I know marriage is supposed to be united financially, but since we are recently married it’s tough to give up my freedom financially. Advice?

Just ordered a pizza. Another thrilling night in with the bf. What's everyone else up to?

I was married for 3 years & she left 1 day bc she realized that she was no longer “happy”. A week later, I caught her in a parking lot w/ her coworker & finalized the divorce. In my mind she was perfect in every way except for the infidelity. After 8 months of therapy and on and off dating, I got into a new relationship but I became commitment phobic & see flaws when I compare my ex to my new gf. 1yr has passed now and I still feel like I’m settling and not mad in love. Wwyd? 2y since divorce.

One of ex’s friends who is I met twice, has been in touch, him and his wife, like commenting on some of my posts occasionally (we are just fb friends and IG friends). I never saw them since. Then the friend texts asking if I am seeing someone and that he wants to set me up with someone. He felt awkward doing that, I thanked him for thinking of me, but then he said we all told your ex he is an idiot for letting you go and they asked my ex it they could still be touch with me and he said yes.

Made an appointment with my therapist to talk through the issues in my relationship. Coronavirus has been rough on us

I am so tired of my sister and mom, and the pressure they apply on me to get married, 32 year old female and I have not met someone yet. I was in a relationship last year for a year and he turned out to be a very mean person and they now don’t trust me at all and want me to marry the first nice guy I go on a date with even if I have no attraction at all, and if I go on a couple of dates and I don’t feel it, they question my judgement. I feel like dying from the pressure.

I have been in the US from Canada on contract for the past 6 months. My fiancé and I were supposed to get married and move here permanently in the fall. She has now called off the wedding, and has told me she doesn’t want me to move to the states. I got a great offer. Great job. Don’t want to lose the love of my life but I feel played. I worked so hard for this. She’s ripping out my heart, and taking my livelihood away. Am I wrong to not abide by her choice? Ask for the ring back?

Anyone be in a relationship where the other has an alcohol problem? Every night out drinking leads to emotional breakdowns and fights. Been going on for 6 months now. Should I break up?

It’s my birthday in a few minutes. 2021 has been a terrible year for me. My marriage ended. It wasn’t a bad end though. We are still close, just not romantic partners anymore. The very first dog I ever had died and I couldn’t go see her because of the quarantine. I didn’t get a promotion that I more than deserved. I don’t think I get paid well. Most of my friends moved out of the city and I’m having to meet new people at 32. I love my job but it’s incredibly stressful. I’m terribly lonely.

Ladies of fishbowl, question. Girl says she wants to get drinks as friends, but is persistent in getting your number to text. Overthinking or is there something behind this? I’m also good friends with her current landlord/roommate.

My girlfriend of 4 years routinely gets so angry at me in the form of “triggers.” She has childhood trauma from her terrible parents. I’ve gone to therapy with her to learn techniques to help, but when I do them during one of her triggers she says I didn’t do them. Later I’ll learn that she’s literally does not remember things I say and do when she’s in a dissociated state. Tonight it was because I didn’t get her oil changed like I said I would. Now she’s threatening to break up because idk how