Sometimes I wonder if I’m better suited for working at a smaller firm. For all the time I spend at work, I wish I had better connections with some of my coworkers. Does anyone else struggle to build relationships at work?

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Do you need relationships? If you do build them. If you do not, do what you have to do, fake laugh when you need to,get quality work done within schedule attend holiday parties and when you want to leave, leave. 🤷🏾‍♂️

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Sounds like you’re heads in the right spot OP, don’t listen to this clown. Relationships are fundamental to being human. After leaving the B4, it was refreshing to actually build relationships with real humans and not “fake laugh when you need to”.

Your coworkers are not your friends. Change your expectations. This is a job. When you are gone; nobody is going to text you. These aren’t real friendships

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OP - pretty sure KPMG 1 was referring SA 1. You can for sure make friends at work. Myself, and many others I know, have made friends with coworkers and stayed friends when they have moved on to other companies. Don’t overthink it, just take an interest in the people around you. Ask them about themselves, people love talking about themselves. Eventually you’ll find some that you find interesting simply invite them and their SO over for dinner and drinks. Or organize a group thing and have a bunch over. Good luck :)

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Jesus, lol I’m joining Deloitte in 2 weeks

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Interesting - I had the inverse experience. A lot of factors that play into it I guess.

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Worked in a big firm before and this is what I noticed. A trick I saw a coworker use before was to bring in food, cookies she baked or donuts. Everybody likes free donuts and you can introduce yourself when you let them pick - if you can afford it financially and the team isn't huge.

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I worked in New York, I found it hard to make real friendships, which where I'm coming from couple of my best friends are from work. Not sure it's American culture to be fake or New York one...
I've seen ppl get friendly at work, invite each ther to their houses and I've been there, but it stops there

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I used to. What I do is I often ask for recommendations from people about what they're passionate about, it puts them in a position to open up about themselves and then ask you what kind of stuff you're into.

Ex: Like if you ask someone if they're into podcasts and they are, ask them which ones they would recommend you.

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I think it depends on each company. I used to struggle with building relationships at work too. My advice would be to be yourself and be genuinely interested in others.

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Honestly, I've been struggling with the same since I moved...I think it's the double whammy of being somewhere bigger and also feeling isolated in a new city. But hang in there, you'll start to get more comfortable in the role and the place. And if you don't, that's ok too! Work relationships aren't for everyone tbh

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Thanks for being kind and encouraging. It really has felt quite isolating and lonely. I'm not trying to be a miserable person, I swear. I'm just really struggling at the moment. It's just helpful to hear I'm not alone.

I made more genuine friends in smaller firms than larger firms, tbh. It helped we weren't overworked and had time to socialize, but I think that it isn't true you can't make friends with your coworkers. I still keep in contact with my coworkers from my first job! We spend a third of our lives at work, we might as well enjoy some parts of it.

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That's kind of how I feel. I'm super relational, and I miss having close friends. With all the time spent at work, it would really be nice to have a friend or two.

I’ve been making friends with the pizza slices.

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Do you interact with anyone from your cohort in a daily check in way? For me, I grew closer by pinging the people in my cohort every few days to see how they are doing and how their work is going. I’m even close with some people who I didn’t spend a lot of time with in training or work on the same projects. It’s nice to just feel like someone cares enough to ask how you are doing, I’m not the only one who initiates now either, feels good.

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