I have a four year old and a 1 year old and I just don’t see how we could have a third. I sort of want one but I really think it would destroy us. Let me know if you figure it out lol
I have 3 and incorporating a third baby into our lives was so much easier than going from 1-2. By the time my youngest was born (2 years in between each) the older 2 were distracting each other and playing on their own just fine
The jump from 0 to 1 was a lot harder than going from 2 to 3 for me.
There’s no easy answer for childcare, that’s going to be dependent on where you live and what family (or not) you have nearby. I got through it with a mix of having family that liked doing extended visits and loved time with my kids, plus finding babysitters who had trouble finding other families to work for because they had multiple kids of their own that they wanted to bring to work. It looked like a small daycare in my home for years but being open to sitters who brought their own similarly aged kids was the trick for me. Also having the number of backup sitters on top of backup sitters helped.
Our local church also had a service connecting families with lots of children that would swap free babysitting, so you’d have a play date with 6+ kids some Friday or Saturday nights and get a date night of your own in exchange.
Business travel is the biggest headache, that requires one spouse to be home and never planning overlapping trips unless a family member comes to stay.
I have 3, but since there was a divorce/remarry inbetween there’s a good 10 year gap between my first two and my youngest. I could have never afforded 3 in daycare/nanny.
I have a four year old and a 1 year old and I just don’t see how we could have a third. I sort of want one but I really think it would destroy us. Let me know if you figure it out lol
I want a 3rd in my heart but my head says “F no! In NYC, bish why?” So I’m with you.
Expecting my 3rd and wondering the same thing. Observationally everyone I know doing it lives in the burbs with either an au pair or full-time nanny.
I have 3 and incorporating a third baby into our lives was so much easier than going from 1-2. By the time my youngest was born (2 years in between each) the older 2 were distracting each other and playing on their own just fine
I have 3. Happy to talk about it more! DM me. Is that a thing in Fishbowl? I think so.
I have 3 and wish I had 1 more! Do it!
What’s your secret? Daycare? Nanny? Lots of family help? Stay at home partner?
The jump from 0 to 1 was a lot harder than going from 2 to 3 for me.
There’s no easy answer for childcare, that’s going to be dependent on where you live and what family (or not) you have nearby. I got through it with a mix of having family that liked doing extended visits and loved time with my kids, plus finding babysitters who had trouble finding other families to work for because they had multiple kids of their own that they wanted to bring to work. It looked like a small daycare in my home for years but being open to sitters who brought their own similarly aged kids was the trick for me. Also having the number of backup sitters on top of backup sitters helped.
Our local church also had a service connecting families with lots of children that would swap free babysitting, so you’d have a play date with 6+ kids some Friday or Saturday nights and get a date night of your own in exchange.
Business travel is the biggest headache, that requires one spouse to be home and never planning overlapping trips unless a family member comes to stay.
Tell me more about these cheap workaround alternatives. I need all the hacks!
Also I respect the hell out of your comment about not making yourself or family small for their sake. Will be channeling that energy.
I have 3, but since there was a divorce/remarry inbetween there’s a good 10 year gap between my first two and my youngest. I could have never afforded 3 in daycare/nanny.