Took an old friend out for drinks the other night and made a pass at her. Feeling pretty douchy about it 3 days later.

Do I text her apologizing for being a douche or just let it lie?

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I’m female and I’d feel better if it was addressed… otherwise I think it would still be uncomfortably in my head. Doesn’t need to be a whole serious talk though, just a casual text like ‘hey I got drunker than I meant to and oops! Really sorry about that’

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Love to hear that, OP

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How did she respond to the pass? Was it awkward or not a big deal? I’m not a huge fan of waiting for stuff to fester. If she is a good friend, be straight with her and treat her like one. Say sorry I made a pass at you, it won’t happen again… unless you want it to. :)

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Apologize asap.

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Own it. Let it be.

Wait a few weeks then text her something funny, like nothing happened. If she responds in kind, you’re in the clear. If there’s no response, don’t contact her again.

But if she texts YOU first within those three weeks and asks how are you … 😎

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Terrible advice.

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Reach out and apologize. Own it. Shows respect for her and your own integrity.

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