Toxic manager is one thing, but how do you deal with an incompetent manager? Working with him stresses me out and I’m worried about learning all his “bad habits.” Our company is a small startup so it’s too small for a team change and getting a new job is difficult in this job market…

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What kind of habits do you think you're picking up on? Is senior leadership aware/would they be empathetic? How do your other team members feel?

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I ask because it creates a better understanding of what approach you could take. If you can manage avoiding some of his incompetency by going above him or involving your team more, then I recommend that 100%. I've been in this situation before, and what helped me the most was not feeling alone/isolated in dealing with this, so I reached out to team members to see how we could figure out how to work around him

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Thanks. The bad habits here include not being data driven, no attention to UI/UX, focusing on solutions instead of problems, no success metrics, etc. My team members feel the same way, but we’re a remote company and it’s quite difficult to take action together.

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How many years of industry experience do you have?

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Hehe well I don't know the best approach, but I do know the funniest and it's sarcasm.

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Always remember that you know better

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Have you asked them about their methods and received feedback? I’ve found it helpful in understanding how certain managers operate and getting to know their “why?” I think it goes a long way in meeting halfway. I’ve been able to change the way my Managers receive information by making it more specific to what they need and they’ve met me in the things I ask of them. Of course, there are also crappy managers but this is a helpful starting point. Best of luck and keep us all posted!

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Just pick out the ones you like from his experience. And simply don't do the ones you dislike. Plus, once you've learned what you needed from him,
you can improve and make it more positive. Turn his bad habits into improve, positive energy that your followers will want to be just like you, a good Person. You got this, if you have self confidence, sturdiness, persistence to never give up, find your way to improve YOURSELF, you will be a great leader soon. Lol, enough said for me. GOOD LUCK! You Got This.

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I suppose that depends on whether your boss knows he's in over his head. If he does, then support is probably what he needs to help him get up to speed. If not, then you and your teammates may have to take the Captain Peachfuzz approach (provide your boss the illusion of control and make all of the important decisions yourselves).

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I guess that depends on how small the startup is, if they are a middle manager, they will quickly be judged on their results and power within the organisation will begin to ebb away from them. It maybe that they have great instincts, and they may be successful in spite of their failings. If they are a founder, or a friend of the founders then you just need to leave, no matter how tough the job market, the sooner you start looking the sooner you'll find something, if the problem goes to the top, the longer you stay the worse it will be when you need to leave.

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If others on the team have similar feelings, they easiest is to make of of them behind their backs. Do not put anything in writing, so there is no paper trail.
Laughing at them will ease the stress

That depends on the company. If it's software, you're S.O.L. for now. Don't try to be smart with your code and wait for you turn to turn the ship around away from terrible decisions like Object Oriented Programming.

That simply means you are overqualified. Speak to the owner.

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