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Good lord, he’s human. He settled down. Thank him for deescalating and move along.
I do agree you should acknowledge the deescalation. It reinforces the positive behavior while also, gently, points out his original behavior was bad. When I joined my practice yelling at staff and tears was common. As a leader I was able to role model appropriate ways to respond, remind the offending leaders to remember we are all working on same goal, that yelling at work is not professional or effective (only leads people to hide things that then can escalate to big problems), but I also went out of my way to recognize and praise the good behavior. It dramatically changed the situation and created a better climate. So yes, speak up but also yes, recognize the good stuff.
As for the HR question. If this is a first offense, no. If recurring then I would report it at leastto another leader you trust or to HR.
Talk to him directly and professionally. Giving ‘in the moment’ feedback is part of your role and you must do so constructively. I don’t see any downside to taking this approach - best case, he self corrects and starts respecting you as a colleague; worst case - nothing changes but at least you gave him a fair chance to address your feedback before escalating further. That’s what I’d expect from a self aware and mature colleague.
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15 hours on a 340 hour budget. The excessive overreaction seemed absurd to me. The only thing that would make logical sense is the entire project is way budget not just my workstream
His approach was unprofessional, but why were you over budget? Had you communicated in the past or was it a surprise. I have expressed my displeasure at times with people without berating them. But there still needs to be a change in how they perform.
No need to report.
You probably shouldn’t work in consulting if getting “yelled” at urges you to go to HR.
Going to HR with a complaint about a verbal situation will not get you anywhere without proof. If you're on Teams, start recording the call. If he continues yelling, then you have proof of yelling and can have something solid to back your complaint, or at least an objective record that others can use to determine the level of unprofessionalism. If he stops yelling, it is a tacit acknowledgment of his unprofessionalism, and he'll downshift. Teams notifies parties of recording, so don't worry about legality.
Neither is yelling at people. I don't see that relationship going places, so a heavy handed approach is ok.
Yelling is never good. But I’ve been guilty of yelling at my team, although it was in the heat of the moment and I did actually love and appreciated all of them. I’ve been yelled at by my Partner before, but I know he had my back regardless so to me that yelling was like someone older in the family yelling at me doing something wrong. I never felt it was at a level of reporting to HR. And I’m fairly certain HR won’t do jack. Also, please keep your engagement manager aware of the hours should you charge over or are aware you’d be over by
@TI - I get that you lost your temper. Apologize. It’s not ok behavior. Your good doesn’t justify your bad. Be better.
This thread is hilarious. I didn't know people were so soft these days. I just got out of a meeting where the lawyers were screaming at each other.
OP you still haven't explained the budget issue 🤔
I think we're all glossing over a rather important question. How far over budget did you go?
You should inform HR. That is bullying and not acceptable. You can inform them that you don’t require intervention but want it noted in case it is a pattern of behaviour.
I had a manager yell and throw something against the wall out of anger towards me. I didn't go to HR because it often just makes the situation messy. I think you have 2 options:
1. Work it out with your manager and "make up," being sure to set boundaries so this doesn't happen again
2. Find a new job or project if you don't think your manager has shown the willingness or ability to change. In my experience, this is often the best option. People who throw temper tantrums have likely done this their whole life and aren't changing
Had an unprofessional Partner yell multiple times atms, got off the project and they are still coming for me till This day. Leaving next week by Gods grace…