We have an employee about to hit 90 days who’s incredibly sensitive. Her first month she complained of hostile work environment. This was investigated and coworkers were written up. She’s been crying and becoming upset from being gently corrected all the way to her suggesting someone stealing her notebook (come to find she misplaced it). Everyone is walking on eggshells now. Is it possible to write someone up for being overly sensitive even after we have talked to her about this?

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Just let her go before the 90 days is up. You’ll be doing her and everyone else a favor. Give her a month’s severance and say it’s not working out. She’s not happy, you’re not happy and it’s not going to get better, only worse as she becomes more entrenched and feels she can manipulate the system. Anyone who makes everyone else “walks on eggshells” is a disruption to the team and can lead to loss of productivity because people will avoid working with her at all costs.

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Let her go ASAP. That is typical narcissistic behavior. Read a book called "walking on eggshells". The more you tolerate her behavior the more she will feel entitled.

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I have been that employee.

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Why?

You will find such employee in every organisation. In my organisation as well there is a lady who make such small issues a big and very big issue. These kind of person are never happy at any point of time. The have moodswings often and you can't help it.

She has been in the organisation for last 3 years and she is still like that only .

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Hi, before thinking about reprimanding the employee - has a talk been done about the condition of her mental health? By your description, she may have anxiety but not diagnosed. If she is not diagnosed then she could be making small things bigger than they are because of a condition. Has RCA been done during her coaching session versus tagged as "over-sensitive"?

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I was thinking the same thing. You may be dealing with someone who has ADHD, PTSD, Social Anxiety, or some other mental health condition. Find out what the root cause is, and adjust. If its something that can be fixed by making some accommodations, then everyone wins.

While mental health is an important thing now it does not justify affecting the team.
Have a talk with her and ask her if she is having issues adjusting to the company culture and environment.
If she looks at you like you're crazy then she does not realize what she is doin.. or care.
Tell her criticism and feedback is important for growth and to understand that and not take things personally (thick skin).
If remains the same, get rid of her, she will only damage the harmony and culture.
I have told some of our female employees the same thing, "thick skin, if you can't handle it this isn't for you".
They all did a quick turn around after that.

I’m that employee. I have PTSD and I am actively working through therapy. Thankfully my supervisor is very accommodating and I don’t let my emotions show to my direct reports.

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