What is a professional way to discuss with a coworker that they are being condescending dismissive and shutting you down? What are the professional words to say these things?

Because I’m feeling a little worn down at the moment and unfortunately, I know other people feel this way as well. So it isn’t just me.

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Know that you are not going to change their personality with a conversation. But I would be direct, and approach them with the assumption that they have no idea how they are coming across. Go in assuming the best. Keep it “l” language, not “you” language, don’t be accusatory, because that never goes over well.

You could also just learn to ignore them and not take it personally which is probably the path I would take tbh.

BUT if they are affecting your ability to do your work, let your manager know. Like, if a non-project manager is project managing and overriding you, you have to elevate that. At the end of the day, you are there to do a job and if you cannot do your job due to this person, that is a problem that the respective managers should deal with.

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Can you speak with their manager or point it out factually to them?

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