When Should you move in with a SO

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I don't think there's a one-size-fits-all answer to this question since every relationship moves at a different pace. I moved in with my SO after 7 months of being together and it felt natural and right. But we were both fully committed from the start, and the relationship moved quickly. I would say do it when you both are eager to merge your lives.. neither party should feel forced into it

7 months seems way too fast for most people. I didn't live with my significant other before we got married, but even still, we needed 2 years to really understand each other enough to share a space. I'd wait longer if you can!

I think you should be dating for 1Y+ minimum, but before you’re engaged. I want to live with someone before I commit to spending the rest of my life with them

I live with my BF for over 2 years now. We get along great and moved in after a year together. I would say when you know you will end up with this person do it. YOu should be committed.

Really depends on your age and what stage both of you are at. If you're newer to long term relationships, maybe after 1 year? If you've done this before and know if its a good fit for certain, probably anything after 3 months?

Whenever you want and feel like. I don't think you need to ask people for validation or permission. Just do it if you want to.

At the very least, 18 months. When the honeymoon phase wears off and you see the actual person without the infatuation goggles on, you're ready. 
When you're ready, go through everything: how money will be handled, what expectations there are for household duties, and so on.

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