A A fam! I am in 10/11/12 now…and my “formula” for step 10 is (1) prayer (what’s thy will?) > (2) meditation (observe self) > (3) self examination / reflection…I tried to do more of (1) at least real time…but it slows me down / not able to react in the moment / more “in the head”….now I think the answer is just to radically accept each moment and live it “from the heart” / not active thought…any advice / perspectives? TIA! 🙏

Thoughts on at-home pregnancy test 7 days post day 5 embryo transfer? Risks? Downsides? We have our blood test Sunday on day 9.

First it was covid, now monkeypox and even polio…? What’s happening to this world, I didn’t even get married yet

Been living in a luxury building for about a year and start noticing that I have a mild cough when I’m in the building. Thought it’s just something residual after my cold but then I went for a week out of town and it disappeared completely only to start again when I got back and stepped into my building. Anyone experienced anything like that? I’m not going crazy, am I?

This job feels like it’s killing me slowly. Physically, spiritually, emotionally. Working to stay positive and opportunistic. Anyone willing to share solutions? I want to be productive and positive.

LADIES: SWEAT, Fitbod or else for HIIT workouts & committing to a routine?

Can someone recommend good books on Vedic Astrology?

Anyone use a lawyer to get increased disability? If so, any recommendations?

My anxiety makes me good at my job. My incessant checking, and double checking, and analyzing has earned me praise, trust, and early promotions. Sometimes I wonder, if I were to take medication to give myself some relief, and to stop the panic attacks, would I be less productive? And then I wonder, do I value my own health so little? But I’m so validated by my performance...sad isn’t it? Hope I’m not alone.

Good places to go in December? I was thinking Portugal - but heard it gets cold cold. Any other recommendations?

New job at a smaller law firm which provides a stipend for health insurance vs group coverage. Any recommendations for NY health insurance?

Any recommendations for a personal trainer? Looking for someone for 1:1 classes in South Boston. Thanks

Have you heard of any success story with natural cycle IUI?

Anyone got a lasik surgery in the Atlanta metro area in the last few years? I am thinking of getting one and interested in knowing more about where to get it from, your experience and other feedback. Thank you.

How to reduce stress? Provide real workable solutions please. Don’t copy paste google stuff!

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

This is a bit specific of a Q, but has anyone here gone to an ED treatment center in NY? Which one/Did you find it helpful?

I might get roasted for asking such a basic question but - how much do you budget for eating out ($ amount or % of budget)?

Pre pandemic I was traveling 5 days a week and just used left over per diem on the one night I went out with friends at home. During covid I stayed home. Now that I’m fully vaccinated and are many of my friends they want to go out to eat/drink. During covid I moved from a LCOL to here so I’m experiencing delayed sticker shock at the prices. Any tips?

Anyone just out of first trimester struggling with sciatica pain on right side? It’s excruciating and not sure how to alleviate - I read up on some stretches?

Is there a range of time in which it is appropriate to begin wishing Eid Mubarak?

Sometimes I feel like I am a drone that just works all the time and I have no friends.

Off topic

How is Tata Altroz (Petrol)? Any suggestions from owners

Went back home to renew my visa. The interview was good, but been waiting for more than 5 biz days for my passport. Who should I contact this time? Should I be worry that it got lost?

Hi all - which countries are accepting Third country national (TCN) stamping appointments for h1b? Any recent experiences to share? TIA

in bgv of EY how many company experience they verify, all the companies or last two? in year 2018 absconded a company will it create any problem in bgv?

Hey Fishes,

Any idea on salary range offer for B8 level at kyndryl.

How did Barclays helped it's employees during COVID?? Did they fire anyone???

What’s the tea on TDH Chicago?

How much audit assistant manager make in E&Y Dubai?

Help me decide between 3 offers (compensation not a factor):
Accenture: Technology Development Program
Deloitte: Risk and Financial Advisory Internal Audit
EY: Technology Risk Consulting

I like the location of Deloitte/EY more but the Accenture job seems more fun (actual consulting vs more IT audit). But, Accenture is not in the city I want. 

Has anyone built an emergent learning group in your consultancy or company that focuses on reflection, feedback, problems of practice... But amongst designers staffed on different projects/clients? How did you structure it? How did you maintain it?

Would you suggest someone pursuing an MBA if they want to get a role in HR or Project Management? And for those that want to pursue product management... are there still a decent amount of numbers similar to accounting? Thanks

Who in the agency would you say has the ultimate responsibility to come up with the agency’s pricing & services model? Sales? Finance? Ops? Project Management? Other? (Context: we have an ongoing issue where a sales person will eagerly be coming up with half-baked solutions for a prospective client, and it always feels like a cluster F when they want to know what resources, budget, and time we need in order to execute said service - which they thought of in the first place!)

How to fake my resume with project which I have not worked?

Hi fishes,

Is there any referral opportunity available for the Data Engineer role with EY.

YOE: 4 years

Tech Stack: Python, PySpark, AWS, SQL, Hadoop

Hi friend how the work life balance in zemosho labs...shall I join or not... please help.

Anyone use air table for PM? Looking for pros and cons. Thanks in advance!

Went for a pre-employment drug test yesterday. They never asked me if I was on any medications. I had to ask them and was told "oh yeah, just put any you may think make a difference in this text box." I put Xanax, Flexeril, and gabapentin. All of which are prescribed and used as directed. Now I'm terrified that I should have put ALL my meds, to including my psych meds. I've been sober over 12 years and never touched drugs (just booze) but I'm having a full blown panic attack.

Has there ever been a class action against alcohol and gambling companies? If not, why not?

Social media! I find myself mindless scrolling through LinkedIn and responding to random shit. I put the phone down and pick it up again without thinking.

Hello to all,
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Just contact me

Wrapping up 2021...

Do you have any reflections on this year? Biggest takeaways? How will you close it out?

Drop below to share 👇

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Covid has been hard. March 2029- December 2020 I drank a lot to cope without realizing it. January- March I didn't realize I was depressed. March I came to terms with increase and ongoing suicidal ideation and needed help.

I went into a intensive outpatient program (IOP) which has been super helpful.

During the beginning of covid I drank every day and in a great deal. January it was a "dry" month which was hard the first week but overall great.

March 2021 realized I'm clinically depressed.

I buy things I don’t need and don’t know how to fix it. I always blamed it on “drunk buying” but I’ve been sober for 355 days and it persists. I know I buy things in an effort to fill a void and try to feel something so I buy “things” but it doesn’t help and I know it. Any thoughts or suggestions?

Hey all, just claiming my seat on a Saturday night. Was just struggling and another comment helped me get back to a healthy space. If anyone is struggling tonight, know there’s one fellow here thinking of you

I told myself I wasn’t going to do it. Re-assured myself I wasn’t going to do it. Told myself you’d know what would happen and still ended up gambling away a bunch of money I know I couldn’t blow. I don’t understand.

How do you know when dependence turns into addiction? Where’s the line?

I messed ups no need help. Idk where to turn.

Any meditation stories on recovery anyone willing to share? Did you have break through moments during meditation?

I know everyone will have different answers for this but how did you know it was time to get sober? I think it might be time for me to find a new job and pursue sobriety, but I don't feel like I'm a rock bottom which is the only time I've ever seen people really commit to it (my father). Apathy isn't the right word but I just kind of feel numb about everything and I think being sober would maybe help.

Some good advice from my sponsor as I go into this stressful week:

- Invite your Higher Power into the meetings with you
- Be your authentic self
- Be there to help others

I am sex addict. I have to continue to remind myself that I am always in recovery. Had a major acting out a month ago, lost my fiancé and just taking one day at a time. That’s all I can do. Just remind myself so I don’t stop working

Downloaded the “Days” app. No frills, no extras. Just a number staring you in the face. I’ve made it almost habitual to open and check... even multiple times a day when I know the day counter hasn’t changed, but it’s helping and encouraging. Each day is a sense of accomplishment and a win over the pull of my own thoughts. Forcing my willpower into further restraint. 10 days strong so far.

I joined a new team and have noticed something off with my Director over the last months (slurring speech, no show to calls or even full days of work). I finally asked a colleague about it today because I’m concerned about my Director. She confirmed that she’s noticed the same over the last few years, but no one ever says anything. In confidence she told me she can often smell alcohol. How can I help? I feel helpless. I’ve already lost someone to addiction and I can’t ignore this. Any advice?

My SO is an alcohol abuser but has said he knows it’s a problem and would like to cut back or quit. Any suggestions or advice in how to help and cope with this. He becomes a different person when he drinks. I want to support him but don’t know how or where to start.

Problem gambler here having to deal with multiple payday loans. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle? Been in a situation with pay day loans in the past? Any guidance would be great.