A student of mine committed suicide this summer.. I am still struggling with her death. I feel like I don’t have the desire to help students because I couldn’t help her.

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

I hope it does not come off crass, but you can't save them all.
It sure is worth trying though.
Hang in there, it is all too easy to focus on your loses; I'm willing to bet that since you care this much, you have helped many and will help even more in the future.
Take a mental health day, then get back to your good work. Kids need people who care.

upliftinglike

Thank you. 💛 you didn’t come off as crass at all. Thank you.

That is so unbelievably hard! See if your school has a plan for you to see a therapist free for awhile. You could also try starting a mental health club at your school. You could teach some of the things you learn and there's also a lot of apps that are great for meditating. Art is also very therapeutic.

Thank you for your recommendations. I was working with our districts MFT for awhile and have gotten some closer by working with some other staff. I just feel meh. 🤷🏻‍♀️. It was really difficult to go back into my room at the start of the new school year. I just sat in her spot for awhile.

like

I’m so sorry for your loss. Your grief absolutely would cause you to feel that way - processing through the loss will help you be able to help others again.

I’m not even sure how to do that. I feel like I have coped, yet I feel like I am not able to help anymore. Either that or I am hesitant because of how it impacted me.

like

I lost my son to suicide 5 1/2 years ago. It is for him that I keep going and learning more. If I had only known then what I do now, I think it would be different:-( I just have to hope and pray that I can make help my students. It is hard- talk to someone if you need to and talk often about your student. Keep her memory alive.

Also reach out to her parents! Let them know she has not been forgotten.

like

Hi there,

I am sorry for that loss. i lost a really good friend about 10 years ago now. There isnt a day that goes by that I dont think about him. Each time he comes up in my memories I have to pause. You couldn't stop what happen, but you may help stop someone else. This year for me has been about love and kindness. I want my kids to feel those things every day.

Related Posts

Hi single parents! How do you cope with being the NOT preferred parent? They say a mom and son bond is unbreakable but my son always chooses his dad 🥲 no matter how hard I try for our relationship, he always misses his dad even if they spent the whole week together. I love that their relationship is strong, but still hurts to know he’s fine without me but not his dad!

Went on a date and kept comparing him to my ex, who I still miss. Breakup with the ex was mutual, he was moving away. Will this process get any easier? 😪

like

How much of family law can be done remotely?

like

Would you make a move on your friend who you work with?

like

Anyone else have parents that love them but give terrible advice? Every time I've followed it, I've been miserable, unsuccessful, missed glorious opportunities or been worse off for the sacrifice. My sibling on the other hand does what he wants and is now super successful and living the life for it.
I regret being the obedient one, the good sibling, all for nothing. They like him better anyways, always have and now more that he's successful and living their dream.

like

Just found out my SO messed around with someone that works in the same company as me but different city and she knew he has a girlfriend. What should I do?

like

Has anyone had issues coming back to India from abroad. I’m under incredible pressure from family members to go and “settle” abroad. How did anyone convince if you guys did? What to do? Just keep busy and ignore?

like

Am I the only one that finds it hard to make friends in the mid 20s in Atlanta? Moved to Midtown in September and haven’t found many young professionals around the area

likefunny

Looking for some perspective: we just got a brand new $2,000 glass top 78" dining table. I asked my husband to please use a table cloth when he uses that table for d&d with his friends to avoid scratches and the loud dice on the table. He got upset that I "don't let him enjoy our stuff," that I "hate the sound of him having fun," and he says I am being unreasonable. From my perspective, I just want to preserve this expensive piece of furniture that we both love. Am I being unreasonable?

like

Who's your best work buddy?

Post Photo
likefunny

Mental wellness: Have been in a long term toxic relationship and always knew he doesn’t respect me. But last evening his texts were so directly disrespectful that am not even angry; am sad. Am usually always very anxious (diagnosed with Generalised anxiety disorder) but after that interaction, I feel numb and slow and seems like my bp has dropped, am walking slowly and I cant talk the usual fast way I talk.

like

My ex-wife is suggesting sending our 3 year old to a early school program, from 7am-5pm. Which I think is too long for a 3 year old. Any perspectives on this from other parents? Thanks

How do you teach kids high-frequency words/fluency in addition to flashcards?

like

Given the gay community is generally pretty sexually open, do you trust your boyfriend/partner/husband? Curious to hear other thoughts.

like

Anyone help support their parents small business? I often work with them on the weekends and work my weekday job at KPMG. Feeling burnt out but can’t say no to my parents bc they need the help. Looking for any advice.

And no I do not ask for pay, I help the business to provide free work for my family to save them money.

like

On ✈️ in front of a very whiny little kid with a great mom. "Kira, see all these other people sitting here quietly? You need to be a big girl and do the same. And then you get a cookie." It worked!

like

Looking for suggestions around cedar park for 4yo bday party venue. Reasonable fun for large group of similar aged kids?

like

I have pretty strong social phobia and am worried about making friends. I'm going to be working for an engineering company so I imagine I don't have to be really up on the latest trends or anything but how can I talk to people without making it sound unnatural?

like

Salam, I was in a 3Y relationship, it’s been few months, I live alone. Don’t have tons of friend so I find myself lonely after work. I burst in tears randomly multiple times a week and I cry out loud. I also have constant dreams of her most of the time normal dreams. I feel like I have little life left since I’m 39, I don’t have any direction in life. I try to pray 5 times and started to recite Quran. Any advice for me pls? I don’t have peace in my heart and I feel very empty inside.

like

Has anyone come close to divorce or losing their family from this job? I am in audit and big 4 but I assume it applies to all major services and most firms.

like

More Posts

Did anyone receive onboarding kit today?

like

Hi everyone!

I recently just finished my interview with Accenture and is looking very promising. We have yet discuss salary, I would like to know other people's salary who work in the Industry X so that I'm not getting low-balled. I currently work at HDR inc. making 69K (Salary).

2 YOE., Mechanical Engineer

The position is "Analyst - Industry X Development Program" in Detroit, Michigan.

like

Hello everyone!
I recently found out that I was being paid less than everyone in the team (more than 25% gap to more expe teammates, around 15% less than new hires)
We all had the same responsibilities, I consider I even had a heavier workload (talking in past tense since I very recently made an internal move).
Things to consider:
On a work visa
Non-white
Non-male
What would you recommend doing?
Keeping it to myself?
Speaking up? How? With who?

-TIA

likesmarthelpfulfunny

Ideas on where to have my son’s 1st birthday party in December? Small group of around 10 people in total.

like

I’m a first year attorney taking and defending my first depositions soon. It’s a child custody dispute/parenting plan modification. Any advice or tips on how to plan and execute a deposition? Where to begin? Any advice at all would be appreciated.

like

I can see Offer not inititaed but my HR is saying to check on candidate login. Is there any other candidate login portal to check? offer letter for HCl. Cause on IOnboard , i am unable to see anything. Please help.

Post Photo
like

My mid-sized firm furloughed most of its staff. Im a first year associate (7 months in) with not that many billable hours. What are the chances I’m next? So much paranoia!

like

Hello everybody, I'm searching for a job in Berlin from 27/09/2022 or also by now in remote. Can someone help me? -Bachelor's degree in industrial design -Master's degree in graphic design -Master in Digital Marketing

like

08/02 check in: Hit for a little with a friend before an hour at tennis lessons!! 🎾 a little rough after laying in bed for two days 😂 how’s your Tuesday going?

likeuplifting

L1 folks, how did you work out an agreement that you wanted to go abroad only for one year and come back for sure?

like

please suggest some interview questions in SAP BW for 4 - 5 years experience consultant?

like

I'm looking for a job switch. For SAP PM.
Pls let me know if you can refer me.
yoe-4.5
I have never switched yet , pls drop in your suggestions how do I prepare?

Thanks ♥️

like

Is it strange to put links in a cover letter?

I never rejected offers before joining. This time i have multiple offers and have to reject 2-3 days before joining date. What can I expect ?

like

I am currently a gov attorney at a major metro area in the northeast. I recently received an offer from a ID private firm (1900 billable hours) in the area for about 40k more than my currently salary. I was going to accept, but now I’m having second thoughts about leaving a secure gov job with good benefits. Really not sure what to do.

like
like

Could anyone suggest what is the best way to search for a place to live in SF? I preferred luxury apartment/duplex or townhome with a indoor garage in a good location near restaurant and grocery stores. Does this exist? Please help

like

Anyone in vertical farming / indoor farming? Super interested in learning more

like

What should be a based salary for an office coordinator in financial services?

like

Are online acting classes just as good as in-person classes?

like

Additional Posts in Mental Health and Support for Educators

Let’s start a positivity post. So many teachers are feeling burnt out and overwhelmed. Myself included. I thought we could use some good stuff in the midst of all of the (completely valid) negativity.

like

I am a second year teacher and I have a pretty tough group this year. I am feeling major burn out. I love my career and it is truly rewarding but I am genuinely struggling. Any suggestions are welcome

Does anyone have any tips for someone spending the holidays solo? This will be my first year without my family around.

like

What are some fun things your school has been doing to boost morale and/or help families?

likefunny

Hello everyone! I was hoping to get your help! I'm looking for volunteers that will answer some questions about the struggles teachers go through. Currently, I'm designing a program for teachers...

like

Behavior intervention option for special needs

like

Does anyone have recommendations on getting rest during the week? My SO pointed out to me over the weekend how different I am after a night of sleep and when I don’t have to worry about the next day..

like

Would any of you be willing to share your worst experiences in education in terms of administrative/staff treatment? I wonder if I am alone in this.

like

Does anyone have a school with a mindfulness theme? If so, what curricula did you use and how were you trained as a teacher? What supports were provided for parents and students

I am not only an educator, but a therapist as well in my spare time. I have found that having strategies to share with others has actually improved my mental health. Am willing to share with you....

likehelpful

So I've been noticing that when I get moving in my body, my mood changes almost instantly to a better one and my sleep at night is so much better. Would you all be interested in a 5 day challenge this

likehelpful

Anyone use therapy dogs in their classrooms? If so, how?

like

What helps you get through the bad days?

like

It's that time...🦃

What's one thing you're grateful for in your life or career at the moment?

Drop it below! 👇

like