Am I being petty?
My parents have pictures of my brother, his certificates & awards on the mantel, but barely any of mine.
Even in the family photos they have up, they are old ones where we are young, then some of my brother's new ones.
I'm the older sibling & there is nothing of me after 12, my high school or college graduation.
I already feel like the neglected & less favorite often, but this adds to it.
They offered to put them up now when I pointed it out.
But I'm hurt I had to ask.

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Your personal feelings aren't petty. It sounds like there are unresolved issues that need some sorting out. I hope you get to that place with your family.

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I think it's best to just talk it out with your family. We don't know the situation but your feelings are warranted. Better to clear the air with them directly.

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