Any tips to sound more confident at work and in meetings? I have ADHD, I am an ENFP Myers Briggs type and an Enneagram Type 2,3,7 & 9 and struggle big time with people pleasing 🥲

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Is there something specific that you’re not sounding confident with?

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I think a lot of it comes to do with decision-making in meetings, needing to be assertive or state an opinion that is not agreeable with the rest of the team. I’m also needing to negotiate my position and compensation in a week and I worry that it will appear as though I’m asking for too much and don’t sound assertive and confident enough in the way in which I ask.

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It’s a really old book but check out Deborah Tannen - “Talking 9 to 5” or Sheryl Sandberg “Lean In.” Even easier search them on YouTube. Also check out Charisma on Command videos like this one https://youtu.be/IeLouT9Aj7s

Appreciate you being so honest about the struggle. I’ve personally coached working professionals with ADHD like you and I definitely recommend following and connecting with Farah Jamil: https://www.linkedin.com/in/farah-mha-cec. She gave an amazing talk today at a Harvard Institute of Coaching training and speaks from personal experience. I love that she talks about these tendencies you’ve mentioned as superpowers and that perspective switch is one of the most powerful tips for more confidence. She’ll actually be doing a LinkedIn Live version next week: https://www.linkedin.com/posts/instituteofcoaching_in-this-upcoming-linkedin-live-session-farah-activity-7066427498678415360-zUkn?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_ios. Hope you can listen in and that this helps!

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