Anybody work on a small team where you are the only diverse member? I have always worked in places where by chance the group was diverse. I just started this job and didn’t think this would bother me because everyone seemed nice. But frankly don’t understand the jokes or the stuff they want to talk about. Feeling kind of out of place and finding myself just smiling and nodding a lot in these zoom meets.

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Welcome to corporate America in the bulk of the nation. This has been me for the past decade as the only black person in the room both in law school and in practice 80% to 90% of the time. Be strong and be yourself. Don't force a fit if it's not natural.

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Yuuuuuuup. Welcome to my life. I do a ton of smiling and nodding, and a ton of laughing after the fact to pretend I get the joke lmao. I was the only Black person in most of my college classes, almost all of law school, and now one of like 4 in the firm, the only person who is even a little bit brown on my team.

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Yup 100%. Was the only female/minority at my firm for years. Nodding and smiling sounds familiar to me.

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This is assuring. Trying to be myself but hard to not try to assimilate so I can fit in. But I can only talk or nod about beer, coffee, hanging only in pretentious areas of any city, bands I don’t know, jokes I don’t get and baseball for that long…

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