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Hi there. I too struggled with this. I kept asking myself “how will I do this? I don’t fit in anywhere” which was essentially me trick fucking my self out of every day joy. Little things turned it around for me and this may sound silly but I started parting my hair a different way, I’d go get earrings, I’d print a recipe, go to the grocery store and make it step by step, I’d take myself out for a walk around the block to start, I confided in close friends that I felt that way, I made myself check off a thing on an imaginary to do list every day like wash a dish, vacuum just anything where I could start building natural dopamine back in my brain. The thing about addiction is that it’s time consuming and it takes you so far away from everyday reality that you almost make yourself feel like an outsider, even around people who dearly love you. My messages are open. I’m happy to do things with you no matter where you are, there’s always FaceTime or phone calls. But I have so much confidence and faith in you that if you start small and add good things, those feelings will start to fade little by little although they never go away. It’s all manageable. There is far more happiness in pure dopamine than there is in manufactured dopamine. Happy to chat. Keep your head up 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
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No, that has not been my experience. Working the steps of the program has taught me how to find joy in my life again and aligning my expectations with reality has made things much easier to accept. What does your sponsor advise?
You are making a ton of assumptions SE1. I have gone to meetings at least 4 times a week for a year+. I have chaired dozens of meetings. I have gone to Area Assembly. I have gone to district meetings. I am doing it. The very few young women I have met in meetings were teen moms working service jobs who I had nothing in common with and couldn't understand me when I spoke above a kindergarten level. Or were nasty little cliquey mean girls. In general I don't get along with other women. Before getting sober I had a few close female friends who shared my interests and were not about drama, but they also drank and drugged together all the time so the friendships didn't survive sobriety.
I’m sorry you’re feeling so badly, OP. Let me know if you’d like to talk.
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I used to think I couldn't function sober until I started praying about living the sober life like when I was a teenager... I was mentally depressed and didn't know it.. I see a therapist for therapy now and it's truly helping me... I'm able to dig deeper than my addiction...Not just mentally and emotionally but psychologically as well... Some things were deeply rooted in my life I suppressed but never truly dealt with... Now I take it one day at a time because I hate waking up with a hangover and alcohol on my breath.. I hate staggering around, I hate slurred speech and I definitely hate I lost two great vehicles a nice job and my families trust becuse of alcohol.. It actually feels great being sober... The inside of my body and mind feels normal and my level of cognitive thinking is manifesting to a higher plateau... Be encouraged and strengthened my brother's and sisters because you are not in this daily battle alone...
I am so sorry you are feeling this way OP. I have always found that life sober is much much better. There are times in my life that haven't been the msot fun but I go out and do what I can to make the situation better.