Anyone moved back in with their parent temporarily? Any advice on dealing with them? I’m having an issue where if my parents don’t see me head down in a computer they think I’m not busy. I legit have three monitors and the one I was on was playing a pod cast. Trying to scroll to where I left off and I get a side comment from my mom about I don’t look like I’m working 🙃. I moved back home after being laid off but I’m working again and plan to buy a new home in the next 3-5 months.

I was giving my kid the advice that the path you sometimes believe you are on is not necessarily where you will land, in a good way, and to stay open to those paths.

Help me make my point.

What did you THINK you were going to do when you started college, and what do you do today?

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

Would you be bothered if a colleague (peer or subordinate) went on vacation to the Caribbean for Thanksgiving, then decided to stay there and work remotely while his wife continued to vacation for another 2 weeks? I am the wife and I'm trying to get an idea of whether this would hurt my husband at work. He has been working while on vacation, so he has already showed that he can work. But he only started in August.

So… 3.5 year relationship came crashing in Jan due to covid depression, work burn out, lockdown etc. We have stayed in contact and recently he has come around to apologizing and considering getting back together. However he also revealed he started seeing someone casually 4 weeks ago and technically is cheating on her by meeting me for coffee and to discuss this. I’m upset that he’s dating others but shouldn’t be right? I mean, I did the same. Still hurts though. And I told him to sort that out

I work with a classroom of Middle School ED students. One student, who I worked with the year before, has changed alot over the year. Last year (pre COVID), she had a good head on her shoulders and I thought I had good rapor with her. But over that period of isolation, she tried to commit suicide.

All year, she was much more withdrawn and ALWAYS on her phone! At the end of the I was 'beat up by her - she really knocked my glasses off.

How should I approach her in the upcoming year?

Comforting others:
When someone tells me bad news regarding their health, I say everything I am supposed to say (I’m sorry to hear that, I’m here for you, etc) EXCEPT “everything is going to be ok”. Because I can’t guarantee that and I really don’t know if everything is going to be ok. I was taken aback recently when a friend told me I am calloused and cold-hearted for not being able to say those words. Is she right? Should I start saying this for the purposes of providing comfort only??

Is having a relationship more important than having a great career? Should you invest in relationships or your career?

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

Hey guys, planning to shift to Kolkata on 1-Aug-22.

Please guide me on best place/area to reside with small family.
I am coming from Hyderabad with family and a pet dog and looking forward to a good society with amenities.

Thanks!!

Any Porsche consulting friends out there?

Working from home in customer support provides so much flexibility as a stay at home mom. I can take care of the home, my babies and work without feeling guilty ….talk about mutli-tasking!

So let’s say if someone’s father / very close relative was very high up in the government of India in Delhi. How does that person go about leveraging his / her relationships, legally, to do something in India? Would you rather do that or stay in the US in consulting?

Why do some muslim men think that career women in their 30s become desperate and will significantly lower their standards? Someone with 3 kids that’s been divorced twice and isn’t even practicing just told my friend he’ll do her the favor of giving her children. The arrogance is mind boggling

4 year-old pinches kids ears to the point of bleeding/laughs when they cry. We have tried everything; time out, safe space, replacement behaviors, telling him to touch gentle. At my wits end!!!

Anyone else struggling with hormones / mood swings? I am almost 16 weeks and been having a real tough time lately, feeling really down and stressed about things. Sadly, causing tension between me and my partner as well as he cannot relate and seems preoccupied with business as usual. Trying to get out the funk and just telling myself it’s all the hormones.

Anybody single in their late 30s / early 40s given up on marriage? How do you see your life progressing? What do you do day-to-day to cope with loneliness?

I ve been in Houston for like 8 months now. I am introverted, and I live by myself. I literally have no friends here outside of the folks I talk to at work.
I need help.

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

Women- if your husband says he fantizes about xyz actresses and models- how would you feel?

Anyone from accenture capability network in sap s4? Please dm or comment. I have some doubts

How to promote the automation culture and documentation culture? I find it hard to give boni for automations since
a) the amount of automations isn't the amount of saved time
b) the amount of saved time is hard to be tracked for a single automation

And how much everyone hates documentation is well known.

Does anyone know better metrics or good incentives?

What is the package that accenture is giving for 5 yoe experienced full stack dev(bangalore)
I asked for 17 and they say that it is ‘VERY’ high as per accenture pay.

How much is 2k a month for a house payment? What size loan would I be able to get?

This fishbowl isn't really active, is it 🙄

Family Law Software? Pros and cons?

What carrer shifts could CSMs make?

I made the unusual transition from SDR To CSM. Considering switching roles or going to full on account management roles.

Thoughts?

Hey friends! I’m looking for some recommendation for a 2-3 days trip (ski, cross country ski, or anything in nature) around the Northeast (drivable from Boston). Would prefer to rent isolated cabins over hotels, but open to any rec at this point. Thanks!!!! :)

I've been following Coforge LinkedIn page, and I have decent offer from them. In one call HR said we will be moving towards 5 days work from Office, to which I said I don't mind. Now that aside, their LinkedIn posts everyone at VP SVP levels are joining.. seems like they are growing very fast, as hiring at such high Positions happens only that time.

Question is - whenever I compare Coforge with any other people say avoid Coforge.. Why????

Has anyone got a Maersk offer recently or have any idea for Job Level-3? could you please share your CTC. Maersk

TIA

Does anyone from the northeast regret moving to Miami? I’m from NYC. Mid 30’s, single. Don’t know anyone in Florida except for 1 friend in Orlando. Trying to get a gauge of how things are down there before I move.

What salary I can expect from advance auto parts and microfocus. Security Engineer, yoe 6

If anyone is looking for Property Management for homes in the Greater Boston Area, please let me know as I can offer my services and seamlessly take care of your long term rental homes etc.

Anyone looking for an AAE or Asst Media Planner? Have a friend w a Cornell degree looking to change careers and join our crazy industry

How is the onsite opportunities in the coforge..?

HR called me and said this position is for onsite once the border gates are open...? Can i believe HR words..?
I am interested in Onsite opportunities.

Do you ever get really motivated to do something and you get really excited about it and then you get home and you're just like nah...

Is firm travel back up to pre covid levels?

As black attorneys, what traumas do you think are unique to us?

When do you think associates are usually let go in small practice groups that are currently being overwhelmed with work? Is it when it starts to slows down or when they already have a candidate to replace you? Just trying to figure out how long I have after annoying a partner 😂.

Are you all talking to recruiters? What are they saying about the market, signing bonuses, etc.?

Hello,

I got a letter from my apartment regarding unlawful detainer.

The apartment refused to take our rent for almost 4 months because it was paid in a personal check and not cashier’s check.

I have 5 days to respond, what should I do please?

It’s Friday 🙌🏾 Any big Labor Day plans?

Any thoughts on how the litigation going on between Twitter and Elon Musk is going pan out?

Last week, I mentioned that I needed to take an appointment (my therapy appointment) this Wednesday at noon. I also mentioned that this is a medical appointment, and I don’t feel comfortable moving the appointment. I just received an email that I need to be available. How can I stick to my boundary?

Any upcoming law conferences/events?

Does anyone feel like there are certain practice areas that are more accessible and/or welcoming to black attorneys? Specify location when responding.

How do you balance your social life with work? I feel like all my non-law friends are out doing shit every night and living it up on the weekends and I just can't. I'm either working or I'm tired from working. How can I set better boundaries about working outside of work, and where do y'all get the motivation to be outside after work 😭

This bowl was originally created for black attorneys in big law, but since it’s the only bowl for black attorneys, many black attorneys in other sectors have joined. Some people are apprehensive about starting another bowl for all black attorneys because it will take away from this bowl. Assuming that the conversations & topics will stay the same, What are you thoughts on keeping this bowl solely for black in big law verses Opening this bowl to any black lawyer?

What’s your theme song? The song that helps you get your head in the game when you have a big hearing or meeting

Just started a new role 3 months ago and both my boss and co-worker have resigned within the first month. Is this a sign? Should I start looking elsewhere?

My office is having a barbecue at one of the supervisors houses. It starts at 4 pm. what time should I show up? Social norms say arrive 30 minutes to an hour after a party start time but it’s since it’s a work party, what is the social norm for social work events?

How do you give back to your community?

COMMENTS REQUESTED!

In the past, lawyer wellness and lawyer discipline/character fitness for bar applicants have existed in silos. I’d like to finally form a bridge between lawyer disciple and lawyer wellness and focus on prevention. When we think of lawyer discipline, we automatically think of outrageous behavior like stealing money. Those are extreme. The common cases are too stressed out and forgetting deadlines or death of a loved one and not having time to call clients back. Cont’d

I’ve been thinking about law school for far too long and want to take the plunge. Where do I start? Any recommendations for studying for the LSAT?

How close do you live to the office? What are the pros and cons that you have experienced living far/close?

Any advice on dealing with a Partner who lacks project management/leadership skills? I'll take any suggestion...a podcast, a TedTalk, a yoga position, wine, hard liquor, basically anything.

Let’s hear some good news! Share your biggest wins so far this week!