Assuming a similar work schedule, does your SO really pull a 50/50 split at home of handling kids, domestic chores, etc? Doubt anyone has it down perfectly but how out of whack does the balance need to be before an issue? Has talking with your SO about unequal distribution of chores ever worked? Looking around me still seeing a lot of wife having to take the back seat career wise and driving the fort at home espec with kids

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The gender roles dictated by society continue unabated.

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Correct.

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Male here, I make most of the money & do most of the domestic chores — cook, care for the animals, etc. My woman will sweep & mop once a week or so.

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Same here

We hired someone to clean early on in the marriage because it was causing too much friction. I do most of the laundry and cooking is 50-50.

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Wife and I divide household tasks on a day to day basis depending on our workload that day

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In our house, it tends to fluctuate. Five years ago I would have said that my husband did most of the domestic work. Now I’d say that I do a bit more than him. We are a true team so it’s not 50/50. It’s 100/100 - everyone gives 100% effort. We try to divide very logically with little thought given to gender roles. We pick up the slack when the other is busy with work. If anything, my career trumps my husband’s career if there is a conflict because I currently make more money.

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We use to divide our chores in our first year of marriage. But now it’s morphed into who can get to it first.

Communicate with your so that you are overwhelmed. Communication is key

He’ll do anything that I ask him to, but I do have to ask

A Partner at my firm (male) recommended I (also male) read together with my wife the book “Fair Play” by Eve Rodsky. Highly recommended for couples trying to navigate this type of situation

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