December feels like a country song. Two dogs died on the 1st. A hard rain exposed latent roof damage and collapsed ceiling in two rooms. Stove, fridge and water heater all went out on the same day last week. Yesterday my spouse said they needed a break from the chaos through the holidays and left. Today a positive covid test. And 7 deals trying to close before year end requiring my full attention so none of the aforementioned can get any attention.

Associates, don’t let this become you.

Any book recommendations for grieving the death of an estranged parent?

I’m behind on my IG game & want to catch up. I went to a few events before COVID that I want to share but feel weird posting it now. Do I put throwbackthursday or beforeCOVID hashtags? Something else?

Anyone raising desi kids in the US? What are are some of your fears?

I’m gonna short the shit the out of Peloton, hopefully will get rich enough to buy one

Tips for desk research heavy projects (lots of reading, processing and synthesising information): how do you do it? Are certain meds better/worse? Modafinil feels better for reading and processing info but stimulants better for focus and executing tasks.

The pandemic, mental health issues, and financial stress caused my work to suffer. What do I do?

Why is it that a lot of couples I know living in big cities are in open relationship?

Just checked my bags and my nw is down 35% in the last 24 hours. I’m numb to it. To the mf moon. Send it

40 weeks pregnant and terrified to be induced. Any tips on how to manage the stress and pain? I’m getting an epidural but still very nervous.

When did you tell work about your pregnancy?

Best shoes for lifting and running? Was thinking about picking up the Nike Metcon 5

People with tiny kids (baby/toddler), how are you coping/entertaining your little buggers? Ours is turning 1 very soon and we have a push trike in the mail, but thinking of inside activities too.

Do any retail workers out there still get severe anxiety when you see someone without a mask?

Tip for anyone taking the CAIA exam, get UpperMark. Was using willey and was abt 1/2 complete and borrowed a friends test bank … night and day much harder and honestly was more like what I expected

Looking for recommendations for resistance band exercises with no other equipment. I know you tube has a ton of videos, but would like recos on any that you found effective.. Thank you...

Would you say your job got easier or harder since Covid started?

My gf and me call each other everytime we have free time. However lately she seems disinterested in phone time. She never initiates calls anymore and she tells me she wants to hang up in the middle of the day and not right before bedtime. We live a 4 hour drive apart. And I told her this is like living together from a distance, because I put her on the house speakers. What can I do to keep her engaged?

I have a CKD patient who is really struggling with their diet. I tried to help but whoa, it is involved!

Is it ok to look for one night stands while on road and not feel guilty.. does it mean I dont love my girlfriend?

What’s the EB1A wait time for GC?

Is Bain done with exp hiring? Was thinking of applying for an AC role but recent posts seem to indicate Bain has wrapped up exp hiring

Isnit true that McKinsey Canada raised base by 10% for BA1 and BA2?

Advice for interviewing at Spotify? It’s for a contract role and there is only one round of interviewing.

Let's say I can't get a product or marketing job in tech, but I could get in via sales or customer success. Does working in those roles pigeonhole you, or is it easy to switch later? If you take a job as a customer success mgr for ads, or as a partnership mgr for learning solutions for industry X, are you going to get stuck in those products (ads, learning solutions), roles (CS, sales/partnerships), or target industry (X)?

Is firm travel back up to pre covid levels?

Any comparison of M&A in practice vs in-house?

Can I ask SPG ambassador to help on my Marriott reservations?

Any BCG partners here open for a quick chat?

Any single nyc men ages 32-49 interested in dining with me at one of these phenomenal restaurants, once they open back up? F/39
Chikarashi Isso, Atera, Jungsik, Wayan, Atomix or Eleven Madison.

Where to buy a 3 bed flat in London on a budget of £500-600k for max growth opportunities in the future? ~1000sqft, (share of freehold) or long lease, close to Crossrail. Or is it best to wait it out?

I’m LGBTQIA+ and an in house attorney in a red state. I am desperately seeking a relocation after a handful of anti-LGBTQIA+ bills and rhetoric have been introduced, & some even signed into law in my state. Despite my efforts, I cannot seem to get a recruiter to work with me or any companies outside my state to even consider me. I’m applying to jobs for which my experience is a match, & I’m being looked over. Any advice from anyone who has successfully relocated?

What do you wish you knew before you began the home buying process for the first time? What would change if you could go back to the beginning of the process?

Any advice on where to network with ad peeps in LA? Any happy hour places or just cool industry spots?

Hi everyone,
How much do you think a CHT of 7 years should be making in New Jersey.
I also had 2 years as a secretary prior to becoming a technician.

Somewhat recently lateraled from a large firm to a small firm and I’m starting to feel very micromanaged. Any tips on how to deal with this?

I'm thinking of leaving firm life and applying to the NY SG's office. Anyone heard anything about it (work environment, prestige, etc.)?

My firm’s IT (especially system saving and file locating function) is so bad 😐😞 and they keep doing updates no one asked them for just to mess with the stuff we already got a hang of without doing anything about the issues we actually need fixed. Anyone else in a similar boat? Do you bill the client for the time it takes to fix the IT issue (or IT inefficiency generally, like time taken to find a file in a convoluted system)? Or is that supposed to be our non-billable time?

I’ve seen this rant a lot so I know we all have that one partner—but for the love of god can you just forward me the emails when you get it?? I see you got this urgent request over 10 days ago 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Name the most ridiculous micro-managing by partners that you experience.

I’ll go first: MP told me that on initial emails, I am always to start with “Hello [name],” but after the initial email, I am not to address her by name again in the same thread. Initial greeting can only be “Hello [name] ” because just first name is too brisk and a “Hi [name]” is too informal. Had a 5 minute, in depth conversation as to why she prefers it this way…

Worst sweatshop, STB LA or Quinn LA?

What does commercial finance work (lender side) look like for a junior-mid level associate? Is it possible to lateral as an ECVC associate to this kind of work? Any transferable skills?

How hard/easy would it be to find a decent big law position after 3 years of SEC experience? Total 5 years atty experience. What will be the salary like?

What’s big law like in San Francisco? Anyone have any insights to firm cultures or billable targets?

Hi All - I’m at a firm that has some infrequent in-house training but not enough to help me develop skills to eventually become a trial lawyer. I know cases rarely make it to trial anymore, but I’d like to develop my skills as much as possible to position myself well when they do. Does anyone have any mock trial programs they’ve participated in outside of their firms that they would recommend?

I lateraled to a new firm and feel like I was extremely mislead during interviews. I’m absolutely fine with burning whatever bridges I’ve made here. Contemplating a no-notice resignation. What downsides am I not thinking of? New job is lined up.

After you are stealth laid off, other than job search, what do you do? I assume they won’t give you work and even if they do, you can politely decline? How do you feel about you are not progressing anymore and seeing other people progressing in their career? I have no intention to make partner, but still feel a bit stuck not doing that much.

I’m currently a third year in my small firm’s life sciences team. I’m not really stimulated by the work and although they say they have a lot of work, they’re not good at managing workload. I haven’t had much work on my plate even after asking many times for more than six months. I’m ready to move to a larger law firm. However, I am concerned how I’ll manage the workload as a mom to a toddler. The good thing about my firm is that they’re flexible with hours. Anyone have experience balancing?

What monetary goal/target are you telling yourself to hit before quitting big law?

thoughts on clerking at the DE Chancery Court for an M&A associate?

Opinion on Quinn? (Would prefer an opinion from people who actually work there and aren’t just bitter from opposing them)

People are in big law for the money or status. I don’t really think I care for both, or get either. What the fuck am I doing here😭

The deadline for a research I’ve been postponing for months is today. I know I’ll send a bad work. Please feel for me

I’m a 9th year in a mostly litigation-based practice group at a one-tier partnership firm. My group’s billable hours have been low the last few years, so making partner will be nearly impossible, and a counsel position is not viable long-term in my group. What’s the best option here if partnership is the ultimate goal? Try to get a NEP/counsel position at another firm, which is likely difficult in my market, or offer to take a class cut by a few years?

There’s a practice group that I’ve been trying to find work in but whenever I volunteer to help, I always get roped in to do non billable work. In the beginning it was fine but now I’m feeling it’s never going to amount to actual work. Any tips to get more involved without all the non billables and how to approach this gently?

Random partner asked a litigation-related question to a partner I frequently work with (i’m a transactional associate). My partner cc’d me and said for me to briefly look. Asked the library. They got me a great case. Sent it back. Now the random partner is asking for more cases in another circuit.

I haven’t done caselaw research since 1L and this isn’t even my practice… wtf do I do (I am fully utilized in my normal work and have a few deals closing soon…)