Do you think parents in India have children as an investment for old age.
You study what they ask you, you do job of their choice, marriage of their choice and due to this when they grow old their children loose affection. Then both, the parents and society guilts the children for not loving their parents is this the children's fault.
Have we failed as a society, anyone here suffering with this ?

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Indian Society is actually really good on that regard. you don't want to provide for your parents, take your call if you want to abandon them. But you want people to understand it from your perspective? Thats not your right. Our previous generation had it pretty challenging, so i can totally understand why they expect us to provide for them. But I am planning in such a way that i don't need my children in old age.
You actually are your parents investment.

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I don't think myself as an investment. It's my responsibility to love and support them as they did to me when I needed and helped me grow. They showed me a proper way in how to lead a proper life and take decisions. They advised to what is good and bad because I can guarantee no kid is perfect in knowing what they want when compared to a person double their age and experience.

So I respect what I got and it is my responsibility to give them back. I cannot leave them like they are nothing to me, ultimately family is everything.

Opinions and choices differ for everyone.

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Not all things are bad. There many people in India who wouldn't have completed even 10th if their parents didn't force them leave about graduation. Some people might not work as they are lazy but do that coz of their parents. Having said that but even parents should give freedom to their children who can think about themselves and think differently like maybe pursuing some other career, I do see these kind of changes coming so hope kids in next generation get more freedom.

Coming to the investment in old age part, this mindset should change and people should try to become as independent as well possible coz we are seeing a lot of people moving out and not caring much about their parents and some other reasons.

In terms of study and job..they guide you based on what they know. They were only aware of two fields.. engineering and doctor. That's why they used to push their kids into those streams because they weren't aware that kids can have a bright future even if they don't go for those options.

Now the difference is that we are aware that there are many career options and we are more open minded compared to our previous generations. Hence, we will guide our kids accordingly. Is our approach right or wrong? Only our kids will know. Based on his experience our kids will guide their future generations.

Main to na kar rha, tum hi ho, tumhara tum hi jano.. kuch galat lagta hai to tum change karo, tumhare paas hai Mauka..

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