Does anyone have to deal with some really needy direct reports? My team just has to answer the phone and book appointments but this current group is so emotional. They cry all of the time and I'm not sure what to do. (If it matters, I am a female, my team is two guys and five women and they are all a mess in their own way)

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I’ll be honest. It sounds like you’re the one who’s a mess. If you’re unable to handle the demands of meeting the needs of your employees, maybe you shouldn’t be in management. When you become a manager, you sign on to take ownership of the messiness of the day to day and bring about improvement.

Find coping skills, learn empathy and taking different perspectives, and try and do better by your team than this post implies.

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They need outlet or shoulder to cry on short answer they need some more to talk to you and that person is you

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