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So I've had 2 hiring managers and several recruiters from Amazon reach out to me about applying for some open positions with the company (android). I completed the coding assessment and now they want me to go through a round of 5 hour interviews next week. Is there a good chance I'll be hired if engineering managers are reaching out to me? I'm really not sure how badly I want to work for them and I don't want to be laid off months after being hired on. Anyone know what Amazon hiring is like?
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Does anyone have surname in the beginning of the Aadhar Card. If yes, where do we have to give that surname in the Company onboarding forms - FirstName / LastName ?
Eg Aadhar : ABCD EFGH IJKL
Surname : ABCD
Company onboarding forms:
FirstName: EFGH MiddleName: IJKL LastName: ABCD
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Layoffs at Walmart corporate 😬😬
Why do I feel so poor?
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Mentors need to be high achievers, you are trying to follow their footsteps. Its ok! Cheers
If you were to flip the scenario and have a mentee who had also felt this way about herself, would you feel like she was a burden to you? What would you tell her?
Comparison is the thief of joy - every single person is on a unique career and life track. You should never feel like a burden - go to your mentor for specific advice that she alone can advise you on and feel worthy of holding that space and conversation with her. She sees potential in you which is why she’s investing in you - I think you should see that too ☺️
OP, go to therapy and discuss self compassion. You are being far too hard on yourself. Love and respect your strengths and the rest will follow.
Wow how’s she doing that? Also, OP could it be that’s how you perceive yourself? It doesn’t seem like she considers you a nuisance since she said you should keep in touch. It’s up to you but have her tips been helpful? It never hurts to have a Partner in your network
She has an oddly high opinion of me. She was the one who asked that we stay in touch many years ago when I was a very junior employee. It’s not the tips that I am worried about. It’s gut wrenching to talk to someone who believes you to be the best and constantly letting them, and yourself down. I am taking precious time out of her day to deliver more bad news. She has been an amazing and highly supportive mentor/friend. I hate to do this to her.
As for how she got up the ladder; executive support, and having a incredibly high EQ. Her communication skills are top notch and is highly charismatic.
Honesty is the basis of every good relationship - have a version of that conversation. Not "I think I'm useless", the "I admire you and want to emulate your success. I've tried to implement the advice you give in xyz ways but it hasn't yielded anything, in fact I had a negative result - from what you know of me, what do you think I could do differently to help with ABC SPECIFIC GAP" (not just "to be a beast and take over the world" - something specific).
If she has a legit mentoring streak, she will appreciate that conversation, want to help and be proud of you when you conquer it (which you will - perseverance is the most important trait of all 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼)
To the point someone else made about is it just how you perceive yourself - if someone who is highly successful with high EQ thinks highly of you, odds are she's right. You probably are very high potential and just need to keep going till you unlock it.
Sounds to me like its even more beneficial for both of you to keep in touch. If everything was going according to plan for you, how helpful could she be?
I feel this as well sometimes. But I consistently hear from my supporters that they like talking to me and having these conversations is energizing. That's how I feel about my mentees so I shouldn't be surprised.
Sometimes we get in our own way, OP. I hope you can accept the support you deserve :)
Tbh the mentor isn’t judging you. You’re judging yourself. Your mentor is just trying to be a good mentor to you. That’s your baggage you have to work through.
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A: don’t worry, life is just like that! Even the most accomplished are insecure!
I agree with Slalom in that you should probably consider therapy and figure out why you think you are, in your words, “a f’up.”
I am also someone who had (has - working on it) really low self-esteem. Then my therapist asked me this question: “Who’s giving you the authority to see yourself that way and telling you that you’re not good enough? That you’re a failure?”
The answer is you. You’re telling yourself these things when they are not objectively true.
Who is to say that you don’t have a fuck ton of potential? It’s a lot of pressure to meet that potential that your mentors sees in you, I agree. That’s the point of a mentor - someone who sees your worth and will cheer and challenge you to meet what they see.
Where one can find these mentors? Been struggling with decisions and career although always top ranked in grade, but would love to have some guidance.
Find the right balance of having something meaningful to talk about. Easiest way to derail it is having 3 conversations without substance or it’s a recurring conversation- be strategic!
You are not a burden to her. However, she is no doubt busy. Set expectations around cadence and time investment, agree on it, then you’ll both be happy.
Or, hire a mentor coach. That way you have more control about working toward and achieving your next-level skills and goals.
Guys, you need to understand this. She is a high achiever and bet on me to be just the same. She has verbally stated this many times.
I am not that. I could not even get a band 7 promotion at IBM and was laid off. She keeps telling me that it is normal but, at my age she was a hotshot senior manager and I am still a consultant.
Do you all know how horrible it is to talk to someone who you have let down time and time again? She would tell me to be proud of making tiny sacrifices like moving cities for a job, or finding entry level employment. It’s so obvious that she expected a lot more of me and is being nice to avoid coming to terms with the truth.
I realize that I am a f’up. It pains me to see her go through mental gymnastics to make my situation seem normal. This is not what she should be doing, and something that I should not make her do. I feel like I am less of a mentee and more of a parasite
I understand that part and appreciate the response. It is easy to be blinded when you are going through a stressful period; it’s why it seems like I am set on proving her wrong but this is not intentional by any means.
I would dispute the suggestion that I am not doing anything to improve or that I have not taken risks recently. On the contrary, I have been working diligently to fix the issues I had and have had some success. Having said that, the only reason I am doing so is to ensure that I don’t ever regret not trying. But I get your point about making peace with what happened.