For people who are already in their late 30s or even older and never married or lived with someone by choice- What keeps u motivated to go keep moving forward?
How differently do you see life from others?
What's your persective?
Do you regret your decision ever?
What do you think are the Pros and cons of not marrying or having a long term partner?

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Oh man. I could go on and on about this one. Let’s see. It’s how you look at things. You can choose to feel like a constant let down because you didn’t fit into society’s outdated norms or you could see it as freedom. I’m in the latter camp. The ability to focus on you, your career, your hobbies, your self worth, your wellness- that’s unmatched. Sure you can do these things when you marry someone 1/3 of the way through a lifetime. But imagine how developed of a human you’d become if you take those 30s and really find yourself.

I’m saying this because I married someone at age 41. And not cause I sat comfy and confident for 41 years. But I had the same feeling you may be alluding to, and lost who I was. Then I had a change of heart, did all this stuff to better myself (therapy, masters degree, hobbies, travel, auntie-hood) and now I’m a whole human married to another whole human (Someone who was very similar). I love who I became in my late 30s- more formative period than all of 20s combined. And I’m thankful I didn’t settle for 💩 sooner. There’s so many more life experiences ahead. Happy to talk offline too if you’re feeling down. 😌

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Never understood single as a Pringle. They literally come stacked on top of each other.

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I’m terribly in love, and I look forward to waking up with them as many mornings as I’m allowed.

I think that answers your questions. Why are you asking them?

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Not your demographic as I am married now, but when I got out of my first long term relationship, I was happy to be single. I could do whatever I wanted with my time not having to take care of another person. I was motivated at work and I was motivated in life. I took classes to learn Spanish and painting. I travelled by myself and tried out new restaurants by myself. I started a saving goal and a retirement plan. I was also actively dating but wasn’t necessarily looking for anything long term. I didn’t expect to meet my current SO but I did, and everything just felt right. I am still the same motivated person, but the goals have changed, and roles and responsibilities have shifted because I am now a part of a team. I don’t know if I am getting my point across, what I am trying to say is if you are a motivated person while single, you would be a motivated person in a relationship too. How motivated, active, or eager you are about life isn’t (and shouldn’t) be dependent on your relationship status.

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A relationship shouldn’t ever be the sole thing in life that motivates you to keep moving forward. I’m in my early 30s and single as a Pringle. I myself am not wanting to have children and could pretty much take or leave marriage so I ask this question of myself often. For me personally I think it’s finding a true sense of what i love, knowing full well that isn’t going to be a person. Don’t get me wrong relationships are great but it can’t be your identity.

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Love single as a Pringle!

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