Has anyone gone through marriage counseling and had a good experience? My wife and I have reached a pretty rough impasse after about 15yrs. It seems like all communication has broken down. We have 4 young kids so we’re both committed to making this work, it is just hard some days.

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have been in counseling for over a year and would strongly recommend it. married for over 20 yrs and were at similar situation. this career takes a toll on relationships that you will be blindsided on...best of luck through the process

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If you don’t mind me asking - what about it did you find most helpful?

Going through now for about 2 months; weekly sessions. 11 years marriage. Three young kids. Yes, highly recommend as it creates a safe space to discuss and address issues.

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We did this after 6 years and it was extremely helpful. You’ve already invested 15 years, it’s 1000% worth a shot

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Haven’t been through traditional counseling, but am Christian so some good churches have programs where you’re paired up with another married couple that’s seasoned in listening to each side and providing practical advice to help you work through conflict. Either way you choose, the key is to find someone that your wife responds well to. For me, I found that to be the key in really understanding her pain points

Yea there’s a great book but again it’s Christian.. it provided real practical exercises for us to actively listen. Therapy I’m sure is great, but not everyone can afford that. It sounds like you just need tools and techniques to better connect with each other. Maybe look for a therapist that will provide just that. The listening exercises are awkward at first, but boy do they work in the longterm.

We did it 4 years ago. Was helpful then and the tools/practices we developed are still useful today. Highly recommend.

Whatever you do make sure you lawyer up and be ready because I found out the hard way... If I am not seeing a lawyer that doesn't mean she is not.
In the long run after a decade of marriage I lost a lot because she was getting legal advice for months the before we formally separated and was maliciously building a chain of false evidence against me.

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