Has anyone had to manage a former peer? I recently got promoted and now I'm managing my old team, including some close friends. Any advice on how to handle this transition without creating awkwardness?

Asking for a friend - anyone staying in a marriage just for the kid(s)?

It's not like the marriage is terrible or unhealthy, but they would take an out if not for having had the kids.

Anyone else experience this? I'm wondering how common this is.

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

How can I make friends in Chicago?

My wife reads nearly an entire book per day just in her spare time after work, no exaggeration. I’m amazed by her and wondering what ideas are out there to monetize her skill? Book editing maybe?

Hard to make friends here - just moved to the city and found out all my friends here are in pair. Need friends to go out with

Only divorce services for uncontested and amicable divorces

How do you know if you have outgrown someone? Known my boyfriend for 2 years but have dated seriously only for 6 months. Confused as why i’m feeling this way.

Have been dating SO for over a year. Amazing person (thoughtful, kind, supportive) but couple blockers 1) I don’t know if I’m ready to settle down yet (30y/o) 2) We’re on different financial paths (have self made NW close to $1M vs $0); this puts constraints on trying to buy a place

I feel bad for feeling this way but wondering if these are valid blockers?

I can’t imagine going back to working in the office everyday without seeing my boyfriend and plants all day. Just the thought of that makes me miss them!

Spending a weekend with my fiancé’s family out of town and quite literally my future FIL burps out loud 10x a day with no shame and his mom is a narcissistic monster in law just have no clue how these bizarre ppl created such a lovely person in my fiancé. Don’t need advice, just want to bitch. Can anyone relate??

I've got some friends who work remote jobs, and every day I grow more jealous of them during my one-hour commute.

I think my parents need therapy but being Indian parents they don’t believe in therapy. Has anyone had any success in convincing their parents to go? Is it too late because of their age?

Is bfs account Contract get extended or they simply release and we get bach to parent (cts), for another project is complete bgv happening or they just handle from their side?

Family luddites ask about my work and immediately behave annoyed when I start to answer.

Curious if there are any single parents that have more than 1 kid? Tempted to try for number 2 but being a single mom of more than 1 kid is scaring the $hit out of me.

Does anybody have any experience getting a Grandpad or Jitterbug (or similar) for an elderly relative who is not local to you? My Dad is reluctant to carry a cell phone and never uses the flip phone I got him 10 years ago but maybe if it was more basic /easier to use he would (?) I told him if he goes out walking he should be carrying one. He has a history of falling a few times a year and I want him to be able to call 911 if he needs to. I’m a plane ride away. He lives by himself. He refuses

Anyone else struggling with hormones / mood swings? I am almost 16 weeks and been having a real tough time lately, feeling really down and stressed about things. Sadly, causing tension between me and my partner as well as he cannot relate and seems preoccupied with business as usual. Trying to get out the funk and just telling myself it’s all the hormones.

I just wanted to take a quick moment to say that you are all doing a great job with this ridiculous, unprecedented juggling act of trying to be a parent, teacher, lawyer and human. Hang in there!

Why doesn't my wife get that it's just me and the great dane now. She making this awkward wanting some room in the bed.

For those that are home grown (at least 2 levels) into the PPMD level, how has your relationship with juniors that you’ve been close to from the start evolved? Have you had to pull away from them (intentionally or not) or are you just as close? Is the saying “it’s lonely at the top” rung true for you?

How much time does ADP takes to come back after document submission on portal for HR discussion.

Hi Fishes,
Can someone tell me the shift timings at Tiger Analytics? I have heard that they have flexible shifts is 8-5 possible?

Any financial analysts here?

Anybody in Arlington (Ballston area). Where can I go running? Any nearby trails that allow to keep distance from others.

Team just applied for a TS Clearance (defense agency). Trying to assess if it makes sense to wait till the clearance comes through (6 months to a year?) before I job hop. I'm hoping to get some clarity on the following:
1. Can my company withdraw or cancel my clearance if I leave right after I secure a TS?
2. In terms of compensation, how much value (% compensation) does a TS clearance have in the DC area? Places I'm considering: AWS, Azure, GCP, Data bricks, Appian etc.
Any advice, thanks!

27M
Any single F from hyd?

Anyone else done menopause completely natural?

I know the place where everyone can find Royal Oak. Location below:

Hello guys ,
How much I can expect from Deloitte for senior data analyst position. The client is HSBC.

Current package: 31 fixed
YOE: 8.3

Pls comment.

Upcoming interview with large tech company for biz ops go-to-market role. Any book recommendations to learn about go-to-market / sales op strategies for tech?

Can anyone refer my wife to big4 or tech? She has 7 years of experience with quality assurance and automation. She has masters from KSU with 3.88 GPA in information technology with a specialization in data analytics. We are in Atlanta GA and not looking for a travel role at the moment. Please IM me if you have any openings. Thank you !

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what is the component called other allowances and reimbursement 1 and 2 ? for what purpose its used ?

Porsche Macan S, cayenne coupe, or Audi RS5? 29M and I can easily see myself driving and loving all three options. I know they’re different but at this point I’m prioritizing:
- Looks
- “Sex Appeal”
- Comfortable enough ride

How many teachers are using Nearpod?

How are the Verizon projects in Brillio?

How much CTC we can expect in Capgemini for Automation testing SELENIUM WITH JAVA .

YOE: 5.3 Already holding offer for 17 LPA WITH ATOS

What is the salary for a senior strategist in NY?

I’m a manager and one of my direct reports makes more than me. It really bothers me. Anyone else been in this situation before? What’s the best way to handle it?

A report opened to me that they are having money problems and wants a raise. We are remote and they moved to a high CoL city. We gave an increase to help with retention 6mths ago. In my response, I helped mentor with best practices on how to ask for a raise professionally since I need to make a case to my Head on finances. But their performance has been avg and not seemingly worthy of another large raise within a short period of time. But how do I respond when they talk about personal finances?

I have a direct report who is smart, passionate about her job and can be really innovative. However she carries this enormous weight of responsibility, for needing to do everything, do it right, make sure it's perfect, not trusting colleagues to help. It creates dread and panic and overwhelming workload and a terrible attitude for her and I am speaking with her this week to start to shift her mindset. Any tips in navigating how to let go of this heavy idea of "responsibility"?

Newer manager here (18 moths). Recent org announcements and hiring holds have put major stress on my team. Some are hyper focused on all the bad, how do I get buy-in that this is temporary and we still have a job to do? I feel it’s more important than ever to show value vs being task takers.

For the past 25+ years, I've been a devops engineer, cloud architect and team lead on many projects. I would like to make a career move into IT Management (i.e. DevOps Manager, Director of Cloud Ops, etc.). When it comes to skills needed, what should my focus be on and how would that translate onto a resume? I would love to still be hands-on to utilize my tech knowledge.

One of my top talents just put in his two weeks notice and I had nothing to offer him to stay. I told upper management this was going to happen! I’ve spent months asking for a promotion for him, trying to push his career forward and got no traction. I know i did my best. He knows i tried. I still believe i work at a good place but i feel like we’re losing focus. I feel my boss is leaving soon. It’s a mess.

What was your salary as a first time manager (and where were you based)?

I got into Management a year ago and now I miss developing. How do software engineers turned managers feel about their switch over to people management?

It feels very telling that there are so few people in this group. Any thoughts on that? It feels like the vast majority of people managers only want the title and don’t want to worry about their people.

Looking to apply for a manager role in my CS team. Any tips for the interview?

4 years of CS experience, no management experience

Whats your biggest challenge as a manager?

What do you enjoy most?

How do you manage your friends/people who used to be in your team?

Any interview tips appreciated! Last time failed the interview cause did not show a proper action plan. Find it tough as I do not know what challenges my manager has

We interviewed a great candidate, extended a verbal offer and she accepted. We sent the written offer a few days ago but she hasn’t opened it or accepted (it’s expiring tomorrow). Have you ever had to follow up? How did you handle it? My company is small with no HR, so I have to handle the hiring myself.

Hi. People Manager here. I've been one for 12 years now and I encourage my team to not be "yes" people. At this time, it feels like my manager wants me and my team to be yes people for her. How do I deal with this? I've never been a yes person and I don't preach this to my reports. I don't know what to do. Help?

Does anyone else just not even want to be a people manager anymore?! The amount of work this is taking, I’m just so over it. In addition to them piling on my work (which is a full time job) the people management stuff is just as much a full time job that no one in management seems to take into account. I have tried countless times to explain this but I end up burnt out, everyone suffers including me. I just left one role bc of it and now this new role, same thing. I’m over it.

Any books suggestions?

I have issues “delegating” or simply assigning tasks, which as a Manager is a whole thing. Like I feel “bad” asking my people to do things that i know i can do but shouldn’t because it’s not up to me. When I assign a task i try to be super clear with instructions, give examples, help them get started…but I still feel bad. Idk. Anyone goes through this?