Have you ever been blamed by a client for their inability to heal in the way they want to? How do you not take it personally?

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Yes. The best way I found to get over it was to continue helping other clients. We know our job to help facilitate healing, not to "fix" people. That being said, focus on the clients who are appreciative of that facilitation.

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The therapists job is to lead the proverbial horse to water, you can’t make them drink. They have to take the step to drink themselves. Sometimes they won’t like the taste of the water. That’s not your fault. Instead help them figure out why they don’t like the taste.

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When this happens, as therapist, I feel like it's important to hear you client out. It's an opportunity for growth by getting constructive criticism and improving based on what they say

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Yes, especially in that strange break after the first clarity, usually 6 months in where they experience some relief but start to regress

Well not me, but I am an assistant for a therapist and recently one of her clients blamed her for not improving their anxiety. She was understanding. She and the client worked out a new plan

I don't take it personally because I understand the psychology of it. Some patients are just not ready to take responsibility so they need someone to blame

I mean...I think that's such a loaded question and it can be so tough to deal with since your professional identity is so closely tied to these things. I think you can acknowledge your role in things to an extent, but so much of it is up to the client too...

Yeaaa, I always ask myself, was it me? Could I have made any of this better or worse? Basically as 30 sec self check and keep it moving.

I am a therapist who works with adoptive families and their children. I've had several clients that I couldn't help. Families that seek counseling often find themselves on the point of discontinuing the adoption. Families have struggled as a result of the children's trauma and insecure bonding. It can feel like applying a bandage to a gunshot wound.
Many families have stopped because treatment was not working: the children continued to "not behave." I remind myself that a therapist's contribution is minor in comparison to the other elements that influence change.

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