Hello fellow men...
How do you deal with one sided love?
I'm in one sided love with a girl, she knows it. We connect occasionally on WhatsApp and Instagram, but I haven't been able to move on and finding it difficult to break contact with her.
Please help with some ideas to move on.

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1. Dont watch those stupid insta reels
Everything will be fixed blah blah
Good things will happen blag blah
2. Involve yourself in new hobby gym sports reading anything
3. Dont always be available,
4. There is no point of friendship post relationship/one sided ( in many cases) so better avoid
Still see if she also has feelings and make an attempt to talk otherwise just packup

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Why to move on . Be a man and confront her directly and tell how you feel about her . The only thing that can help you to move on is a closure to this damn thing .

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So beautiful girls are this shrewd to think all this. It sounds so sharp to me.
Excuse me coz I have never had female friends nor gf. So I don't know much about girls.

Every man has to go through this especially in India. I'm not sure if any suggestions are gonna help you move on. But here are a few things which helped me

1. Find a hobby that you really love to do, anything that distracts your mind. For me, it was Splinter Cell: Blacklist

2. Learn to value yourself, how can you expect some girl to respect you when even you can't respect yourself. Remember, a girl can only love a man that she respects. I did it by learning new things, I started playing football and other sports. Believe me, the effects that sports have on a man is phenomenal, both physically and mentally. This is what the testosterone was supposed to do.

3. Have a daily timetable and don't include anything that involves that chic in any activity whatsoever. Basically keep yourself busy.

4. Hit the f***ing gym. You need to experience the pinnacle of what your body is capable of. I cannot explain this feeling, but my fellow gym buddies in this bowl can testify that there's no going back after this.

5. Love your family. It's your backbone. No chic is as important as your family, she only becomes important when she becomes family.

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You need to move on. Simple

Confess and close the matter or else live with regret. Simple

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