Related Posts
How to overcome a breakup. I'm heartbroken 😭
Coach
Pro
Bowl Leader
More Posts
Bowl Leader
Additional Posts in The Wedding Bowl
Conversation Starter
Conversation Starter
New to Fishbowl?
Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
Make sure to do what she wants, as most women drop hints. Does she want it private, around family/friends, or a very public proposal? Also - would you consider getting a photographer to capture the moment?
I got proposed to a couple months ago and it was exactly what I wanted. In the morning he told me we’re going to a fancy restaurant for lunch that someone recommended (this was so that I dressed up nice) - we ended up not having time for it but somehow I wasn’t even suspicious bc it was a road trip. He hired a photographer to hide and take photos during it all, which I loved because it captured our genuine smiles and laughter in the moment and we used the photos for save the dates and our wedding website - I recommend a photographer for this because it’ll look more genuine than doing an engagement shoot months after the fact. Just make sure she dresses up nicely for the day so she’s proud of them too.
Congrats!! Maybe speak with friends and family to see if your fiancé would want a photographer present to capture the moment. I’ve seen a lot of magical pics come from that and regret not having a photographer hidden for my own lol
I agree with both comments—try to figure what your fiancé would want BUT with the caveat that if it doesn’t work for your proposal, don’t force it. For example, I wanted a photographer but my fiancé planned to propose in a desert at night under the stars and there was no way to get a photographer without it being obvious.
Also, a note from my fiancé—don’t have a full speech planned. Have some bullet points on what you want to say. You may forget in the moment. My fiancé says he had a whole speech thought out and my fiancé is one of the best public speakers I know…and he stumbled through his words out of nerves.
Cannot recommend getting a photographer enough, if it is within your budget. We love our proposal photos, and it was so nice to get to relive the moment because I blacked out when it was actually happening!
Conversation Starter
Same! Haha glad I'm not the only one that blacked out
Hi all, thanks so much for the advice! Confirmed a date and place for us! Any suggestions for gifts to give her during the proposal? Right now, deciding to give ring and flowers. Any other suggestions for what I could give her as a gift? Thanks!
Pro
My fiancé had balloons for me at the after party with friends. It sounds cheesy, but no one had ever gotten me those big balloons before so I loved it. I agree that flowers are always good!
Drop a hint within a two week window so she can have her nails done. I made this abundantly clear with my now fiancé because the next day at church, all the little old church ladies wanted to see the ring, and I wouldn’t feel as confident showing off a ring if my hands looked bad.
I proposed 6 months ago. One thing I’ll say is you could rehearse what you wanna say when proposing a million times but in the moment your brain will just turn off and you just go with the flow. Enjoy the whole experience. It’s a wild feeling and a major rush in the moment. If you want something private and your SO wants people there, a good compromise is to propose with the 2 of you and then have a small gathering of fam/friends after. It’s really what you make it!
i’ve proposed 7 times in 6 years so i’m pretty knowledgeable…
jk.
but you won’t be nervous until you are (it will hit you like a brick when she doesn’t know and you have to do it in 5 seconds). take time to practice your words. mean them. and make sure you’re present within yourself and with your SO
Thank you, everyone !!! Any advice for winter proposal if I want to do it on/near a beach? :)
know the tides. know the sun angle. know the sunset time. figure out where to go so it won’t be too busy.
Pro
My fiancé proposed on top of Sharp Top at Peaks of Otter, and it was quite lovely. If your significant other is into hiking, I highly recommend proposing on top of a mountain. There are so many good ones in Virginia! He also got his friend who is a photographer (but who I hadn’t met before) to be there and take pictures of it. He then planned a surprise party with my friends after.
I echo what others have said out the photographer. We did a mini photo shoot after the proposal and used those as our engagement pictures for the wedding invites.
Try your best to be yourself. I know several folks who figured out they were going to be proposed to because their partner was acting weird.