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'An Empirical Analysis of Racial Differences in Use of Police Force' by Roland Fryer
Link to study:
https://scholar.harvard.edu/fryer/publications/empirical-analysis-racial-differences-police-use-force
Some bullets:
- Blacks 53% more likely to experience any use of force relative to 15% for whites
- All controls available, officers 46.6% less likely to discharge firearms before being attacked if suspect is black.
- Black officers are more likely to shoot unarmed whites, relative to white officers.
- Blacks are 21% less likely to report voluntary interaction with police than whites.
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Means dating that person is going to suck. Dates will be canceled more often than not.
Amen!!!! Say it louder for the ones in the back who aren’t paying attention!
In choosing between something which will significantly impacts you, or something which will slightly impact her kids, she’s choosing you 10 times out of 10
No. Choosing who is impacted….
Or if she can't find a babysitter, then fancy date you planned is a burst. If you still want to see her, you have to go over (after she has introduced you to her kids).
& that’s IF she’s willing to introduce you to her children.
Are you people crazy? It means literally what it says. Her kids come first. It means you’re not going to be the center of attention. It means you’re going to be an addition, and expendable addition if you don’t act right or are weird or mean or distant with the kids. Some guys want a ready made family. Some don’t. Some can’t handle not being first. You have to be honest with yourself about what you’re ok with and what you really want. It’s ok to give it a try. It’s just dating. You’re not signing a contract or anything. Other adults appreciate honesty if it’s not working for you. At least you can still be friends. It’s a rare thing for people to really work as a couple I think.
Sounds like you don’t really have much experience of women who say things like this
Run -
I would word it as "must love my kids." Nobody wants in a relationship where they are already being told they will come second. No matter what? Why would they want in a relationship like that?
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That would make a lot more sense to me too. Do you it's a red flag?
As long as she doesn’t mean that sexually, you should be ok
You know how some of us are here looking for a different career for a better work life balance she’s basically letting you know that she will never be a relationship over my kids balance.
Which is generally another way of saying I come with baggage and you take it all or none.
Her kids will always come before you or anyone else no matter what and I’ve seen this go beyond the general acceptable ages some parents cut off the strings at 18 others have no problem letting their 42 year-old son live in their wallets and homes a ….. she’s letting whomever wants to pursue her know you will never be number one you will always come in second at the very least.

Just to be copacetic with that.
Avoid.
In others words your not that important