How to deal with parents and family members who are bullies?

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Cut them out.

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C1 it got nothing to do with ego. More to do with being harassed by my own parents so much that I couldn't go on with my life. Children abuse is way more common than some people think, and if you don't put it to an end it will go all the way through your life.

Just bcs someone is your parent it doesn't mean they are decent people.

I put about 500 miles between myself and them

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Make it clear they are going to end up in a crappy retirement home

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You owe them nothing. If you don’t set boundaries, bullies will never respect them. Or you. Tell them you don’t expect to be treated this way and block them.

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Don’t. They need you more than you need them

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Sit down and have an up front conversation about how they’re treating you. If that fails, limit your interaction (best for your own self esteem) and let them see you will give them your time and love when you are treated with love too

Distance yourself from them if needed and if they refuse to try to change. Protecting your mental health is so important.

If you give them one good punch at recess, they’ll realize you’ll stand up for yourself and look for easier people to pick on

Just ignoring them is way better. Just imagine your own child not caring about you enough to pick your calls.

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Cut them out. I don’t want to make snap judgements here with such little information, but are you from a non-Western country? It seems like so. That makes it super difficult to get rid of problematic family members, but believe me, you can. Do it for your mental health. Familial abuse and toxicity is REAL. Don’t feel guilty about getting rid of dicks even if you are related to them. Also, if you are a successful professional who is not dependent on them, why are you putting up with their shit?

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