I don't love my parents. I think they're hardworking, but they're not the parents that I needed when I was growing up. Moved away from them the moment I was able to. Don't really want to visit them any time soon.

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You must do what you need to do, but try and remember that being a parent is a very difficult job, and most parents do their best even if they come up short.

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Most is not all. Some of us were raised by someone other than the Cleavers.

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May not have been what you needed while also being everything they had to offer.

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I felt that way about my mother. I was the only one with her when she died. I forgave her for being a horrible parent (and human in general) as she was taking her last breath. I have no regrets and don’t miss her one.single.minute.

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I've never had doubts that my mother loved me and wanted what's best for me, but I was never able to connect with her or appreciate ways in which she showed her love.
She just annoys me to no end, and I can barely stand being in her presence for more than an hour.

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Welcome to America.

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I moved out but my parents like to visit way too often to encroach upon my peace and life, and now I highkey want to throw myself off my balcony

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Same here, OP.

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I’m sorry you feel this way. My mom died when I was 18 and she was the best mom ever. I miss her so much. I’m now a mom to two young boys. I’m curious if there was anything specific that your parents did that made you feel this way. Im always looking for things to avoid so I can keep trying to be a “good” mom.

They are dismissive of my emotions, so now I often feel that my emotions are invalid.

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