Confession Friday!!: Tell us something your girlfriend/boyfriend/partner doesn’t know you did/said/think. 🟢🟢🟢

Realizing that I am way too old for nights

I work with a classroom of Middle School ED students. One student, who I worked with the year before, has changed alot over the year. Last year (pre COVID), she had a good head on her shoulders and I thought I had good rapor with her. But over that period of isolation, she tried to commit suicide.

All year, she was much more withdrawn and ALWAYS on her phone! At the end of the I was 'beat up by her - she really knocked my glasses off.

How should I approach her in the upcoming year?

Anyone in Dallas?! Need friends

does anyone here have experience freelancing while taking care of a newborn? would love to hear your approach/perspective. my husband and I both work from home and his job is so lax, it’s practically part time. trying to formulate a plan for returning to freelance life after the kid is born.

Half the reason I work out is to make my ex jealous

How do you deal with parental guilt when you have to miss things? When my child was a baby it wasn't as big of a deal as long as I was around for the big stuff and was pulling my weight parent wise. Now that they're 4+ everything is big stuff, and every time I can't be there it really affects them. I know being successful in my career will set them up for the future, but it feels like I'm letting them down right now.

If you had two kids would you let them both learn the same 2nd language that neither you or your spouse know?

Any expats here face pushback from your family for moving to a different country? They always try to shame me for moving so far away around the holidays...

Went to a funeral today, wife’s oldest friend 42 non smoker, non drinker, did yoga and was a vegetarian and probably the nicest person I have met… went back to the house husband wanted a drink opened a top shelf bottle cause why not? Sometimes the stuff we discuss here is so trivial but what I remembered today is open the good stuff, enjoy it with people you love and tell them you love them. Tomorrow is not guaranteed

I know the general answer to this, but I want to know others response.
If by your 30’s you’re mostly established in life, why is it then harder to establish a long lasting relationship with someone ?

Let’s say you have two young, high income partners in a couple who want to buy a house together but don’t really care to get married. They already live together in an apartment but both want to move to a house to build equity and have a yard, not share walls, etc. Should one partner buy the house and the other pays rent until they get married, or should they get a mortgage together without being married? I realize there isn’t a “right” answer but I’m interested in people’s experiences here.

Do you ever wish you could just go home at 6, play with your kids till they fall asleep, and then have a glass of wine with your wife before an early bedtime & sleep 8 hours?

Recommendations on an exceptional career coach who can help my husband? He works with his brother at a startup his brother founded (my husband is in-house counsel) but often finds himself belittled by his brother, cut out of conference calls and emails and generally feeling like he has no skills. He's an ivy league graduate and went to a great law school but for many reasons cannot leave this job right now. Looking for someone to help w/his confidence level and ways to approach his brother. TIA!

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Anyone in DFW want to do something this weekend? Just moved here and I have no friends here 😢

My wife reads nearly an entire book per day just in her spare time after work, no exaggeration. I’m amazed by her and wondering what ideas are out there to monetize her skill? Book editing maybe?

Any girls looking to make new friends? I’ve been here for 3 years and want to meet some more people, friend group is a bit exhausting at this point

Do you tell your boss you’re going through a breakup? I’m phoning it in and obviously going to be camera off for awhile.

Sometimes I wake up and am surprised I’m on people’s close friends story. They aren’t on my list but alright, I’ll take it. Guess we’re close than I expected?

Is this legal?
After being mugged and having my things (including my keys) stolen, I was locked out of my townhome after business hours on a weekend. I was told on the phone when dialing my complex’s after hours number (which is managed by a 3rd party company) that my complex’s policy would let me in for a cost of $100 (as it was after hours). After I was let in, property manager informed me the charge was $200. Is there anything I can do here? This is in Minnesota. Help appreciated!!

Has anyone been asked to look into creative automation platforms? If so, any success with finding a good solution you would recommend?

Got my bachelors degree in civil engineering in China. Passed all four CPA exams in 2010. I have less than 1 yr exp working in a CPA firm. What do I need to do to get the CPA License in NY?

Anyone prepping for the SHRM-CP test? I’m taking a prep course this fall and would love tips or to know if there are any study groups out there!

I have a compensation review discussion with my partner coming up. I be want to be prepared with market data so SENIORS can you help me out. What’s your comp? Yrs of exp? Firm? Years at senior? MBA?

I have an offer for a Senior Consultant role from PwC India. Need to know how are yearly hikes, bonuses etc.

Getting 2110€/net a month in NL for working as a technician… assembling and testing. I have rotating shifts also. Do you think it’s okay?

Diversity quota is real: both for B-School admissions/scholarships and MBB recruiting.

Readers be warned. Your skills don’t matter as much as you think.

That is all.

CPAs in private,

Anyone try AICPA CPExpress? What service do you recommend to fulfill your requirements?

What firms are pushing/expected to require/have formally required return to office after Labor Day?

Do any of you have side-jobs or maybe hobbies that you make money from? Alternatively, what do you think sounds like a good one to look into?

When will I find my passion? I’m a criminal prosecutor chasing PSLF (5 years left). I am just not that into it. My wife is a teacher and loves her job so much she could work 16 hour days. I am jealous. My passion is my family and my job is just a paycheck. How can I figure out what I really want to do? Do I want to get that obsessed with work? Help!

Partner keeps telling me (2nd year) that I need to get better at using staff like paralegals to reduce client costs.....but doesn't realize that the only paralegal allocated to my group has been with the firm for 30 years and bills 1.5x higher than me.

Tips for becoming more independent as you progress from junior to midlevel? I am starting to be put into the position of just having to handle things including drafting and could use some advice from others.

RIA located in Hauppauge, NY is looking for an administrative assistant. Preference given to those with RIA experience. Let me know if you would like to have a conversation .

Is it illegal to tell someone to get out of your car if your in a national park at night? What if the person made you feel unsafe and you wanted them out of your car, even though the location was a bit dangerous (ex Yellowstone, Smoky Mountains)?

Yikes! Some days, I just can’t stand my job

I have come to the realization that I am more attractive with a mask covering my face 😞

Anyone else buy a lunch box only to use shopping bags instead? I can’t be the only one. Lunchbox has been empty in my trunk for the last year. Used it maybe 3 times.

Went to a funeral today, wife’s oldest friend 42 non smoker, non drinker, did yoga and was a vegetarian and probably the nicest person I have met… went back to the house husband wanted a drink opened a top shelf bottle cause why not? Sometimes the stuff we discuss here is so trivial but what I remembered today is open the good stuff, enjoy it with people you love and tell them you love them. Tomorrow is not guaranteed

America is so ugly.

Sometimes I wake up and am surprised I’m on people’s close friends story. They aren’t on my list but alright, I’ll take it. Guess we’re close than I expected?

Battle royale, which F500 CEO is your champion? Money has no influence.

I’ll start, Jeff Bezos is my champion. Pure physicality and oddly deep voice

I just bought 4 pads of checks because of the aesthetic

where my canadians at? how strict is covid there? my friend is in toronto for work and the hotel found out he has covid. now they’re locking him in his room. is that legal? if so, what’s the protocol to break quarantine? hotel wouldn’t answer 🫠

What is “the 71”?

Anyone here cringe or shudder when they see someone with loads of Botox and face work done? I find it hard to look at people like that.

I have $400k in student loans, half of which are private. I want to quit my job and this career entirely but there’s nothing I can possibly do to make these damn loans go away without strangling myself financially for the rest of my life or literally dying.

This lady on Ted Lasso looks too much like Megyn Kelly. It's throwing me off

To all the divorced folks out there...

1) What went wrong in your relationship?
2) What's one piece of advice you'd give to us singletons before jumping into a long term relationship/marriage?

I like to learn from other people's mistakes 😅

Anyone know how to deal with sleep problems? I find myself waking up in the middle of the night and staying up for a few hours because I can’t sleep. When I do eventually sleep I get like an hour or 2 before work which leaves me tired and grumpy.

Why am I getting so many interview calls right after I accepted an offer 😫

Is anyone concerned the push for sexual equality in pay without accordant leveling of parental leave is gonna backfire?

Here’s a hypothetical:

A company has 2 candidates, aged 25-30, equal in every respect save one’s a man the other’s a woman. Maybe the woman is a slightly better candidate overall. They’d have equal comp.

Company considers the woman a riskier bet due to possibility she’ll take maternity leave — and considers the man less risky for his ineligibility to take as much leave. 🤷

What do you think about Retention Bonuses? Is it a good or a bad thing? Love to hear your thoughts on this.

Morons actually thought free speech was free🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡

Elons an economist by trade. That free speech is going be behind a paywall.