I feel like I'm losing perspective. I'm not grateful and think I really need to listen to others and ask for some perspective. Sober almost 16 years. Thoughts?

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Thanks, you are right. I need to do more. Time to re-read. Talked with sponsor the other day. Thank you.

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I asked my sponsor if there’s any “make or break” point he’s seen in people over the years. He said, “I’ve seen people go out with 30 days and with 30 years. The only thing consistently that I’ve noticed is it’s when they stop doing the program fully.” Made sense. Going to meetings, sponsoring someone, and some form of daily routine elements all work together to work. I’m only 4.5 months in this time, and I’m really focusing on the emotional/spiritual/fellowship part of it, rather than the “don’t drink” part. The former takes care of the latter for me. Being a grumpy/scared/frustrated dry person does nobody in my life any good.

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Call a newcomer. Meditation. Meetings. I sometimes practice radical gratitude for 10 minutes at a time. Set a timer and in your mind, note everything you are grateful for: my ability to walk. That stranger who smiled at me. The smell of that lady's perfume on the subway. Whatever! And remember: that feeling isn't permanent.

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Practice gratitude. Maybe rework the steps. Reread. Call your sponsor. Reach out. If you’re doing service at the meeting level, go beyond that. Become a treasurer or GSR or intergroup atiff

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Radical gratitude, love that. Thanks for all the support. Had a great few days recently. I realized that I'm not in charge and God's plan is always better than mine. Ego is a funny thing. Glad I can laugh at that.

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More than welcome!

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