I feel so trapped I want to scream. Fiancé’s been unemployed for a year. He’s a creative, we’re in a small ad market and he’s been rejected from almost every shop. Pre-covid I wanted to leave my job, but we need insurance. I’m unhappy because I used to do strategy, but now am a glorified assistant. I have nothing to show for the past 4 years so interviews just suck. We can’t afford a house, wedding is on perma hold, and I’ve got maybe five kid bearing years left. I thought my life would better.

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You you fiancé will make it through these dark times. My partner and I where in the same boat a number of years back. We had to face some hard  truths and make some difficult decisions. But it got better. Our life isn’t what we dreamed it would be when we first started dating, but I wouldn’t change a thing now some 15 years later.

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Your not alone. Life is rough especially these days. Trying to grow in a company is so hard. I had to put career on hold when my child was diagnosed Autistic and I did it happily because he needed me more and my child's Dad is skitsophrenics so couldn't rely on him to take the financial obligations and strain so had to just do all I could. Now that I want to grow at work even though I am fully capable for the roles it's just rejections without proper reasons it's very demotivating but can't resign in this economy. I pray your options improve dear🙏🏼💐 focus on building your foundation the wedding and everything will come

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Can you start something together and work with local businesses? Maybe pull in a couple of extra hands when needed. I’ve in your fiancé’s shoes the last couple of years and inching closer to mid-30’s. Ditched the small market 3 years ago.

Maybe it’s time to try jobs outside the box? Or find remote work if your market is small?

Has your fiancé been outright rejected - interviewed and passed on - or no reply? Maybe retry now that places are hiring again.

Don’t worry about houses and weddings and timing. Focus on what’s best for you both to get out of this feeling.

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