I just turned down a partner track invite for a government role and my parents think I’m insane. I’ve spent seven years killing myself for a spot at the big table, and when the offer finally came, I realized I didn't want it. I took a counsel role at a state agency. It’s 40 hours a week, a pension, and I actually get to see the sun.. People are making me feel guilty about the move. Did I make a mistake?

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Great move. Work < life. Im in big law rn and I can't wait till I find a comfy 40 hour a week job

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Only YOU can determine what’s best for YOUR life. Drown out the noise. Congrats on knowing what you want (and don’t want) and pursuing it. That beats living in the prison of others’ expectations.

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No. Trust your judgment. It's your life.

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No mistake, you relied - correctly - on your own knowledge.

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Your career is no one else's business. Good for you for realizing you didn't want it and seeking out something that works with your life, wants and desires. The pension alone is something most employees would leave for.

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No you did not.

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Congratulations. Going in-house was the best thing I ever did. A government legal job will give you a sane environment and a life.

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You 100 percent did not

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I totally understand and it's ok! I also thought that my current job is really suitable for me and really happy when I joined, turns out I didn't really like it. Thankfully it's just a contract position and now I'm looking for more suitable job:)

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As someone who had been self-employed for a very long time and is now working temporally for a government - I absolutely see the benefits. It´s safe, doesn´t kill you workwise and you practically have zero resposibility for anything at all...but that is why I personally am glad to leave this well paid position again - because I find it mind-crushing. But as was said before - if you are happy with your decision, by all means do not let anybody - least of all your parents - tell you what is right or wrong for you. And if you change your mind in the future - then just get another job. You can still be interesting for the free economy after you leave the government....;).

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No

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Congratulations on making a difficult decision. It’s your time, life and money. If you decided to protect your peace and happiness, only you know what that is worth. Celebrate your decision and there will be plenty of opportunities to find something better (more money and still good WLB). Partnership is hard to come by and having an opportunity to be partner is an achievement. Don’t let others calculate what your peace is worth and give yourself a pat on the back!

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Maybe. But time will tell, you had your reasons, and, in addition to seeking validation here, you presumably had some good inputs into the decision.

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You’ve got your priorities straight. Listen to yourself and follow the path that makes you happy.

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I have been a partner in a large defense firm and I switched sides to help victims of workplace misconduct. The defense partner years - 7 in total - were very rewarding in terms of money, leading cases, and being surrounded by lots of smart interesting people but the 90 plus hours per week really were life sucking. It took me several years to un learn defense tactics but switching sides was the best thing I ever did for myself. I now feel like I help people instead of corporate budgets. And 75 percent of the year I work forty or fewer hours. It took some time, but I’m now exceeding the comp I made as a defense partner and i am much happier and more balanced

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