I landed an interview with my dream firm, which is highly respected.

I know this is very superficial: I gained weight during COVID. I lost some of it, but i'm super self-conscious about the extra pounds. I've never felt insecure about my looks/body before, but now i'm scared this might be a negative factor.

I live in an area where looks matter. Plus the firm is majority white (i'm not), so I can't afford another negative factor on top of being a POC and a woman.

Would love some encouragement

For the first time in my life, I know what I’m supposed to do at my job, with relationships around me and it’s all because the enormous sense of anxiety I used to experience evaporated during quarantine. I didn’t know that I lived with so much anxiety that it crippled me. I didn’t know I needed this time to myself.

What's next after healthcare for you all?

Anyone interested in working with a health coach to support you with nutrition, career, relationship and overall lifestyle change? DM or comment below for more details!

Can anyone recommend a good book/materials to prep for the CIPP/CIPM? 🙏🏽

I've been gardening more to relieve stress and have some time to my self. Full endorsement!

This couldn’t be more timely as I’m sitting in the waiting room after just being diagnosed 😆 welcoming tips for adjusting to Adderall!

Question: Friend is starting to seek treatment, should he tell HR that he is getting treatment or keep it quiet. May want to go to inpatient at some point Trying to be supportive and give good advice.

Can provide more details if needed, but if an employee is constantly coughing at work (small retail establishment), is it okay to ask them for a doctor's note stating they aren't contagious? They're claiming it's due to allergies, but I've gotten several confidential concerns from employees and customers alike due to the current enviornment.

Whenever i have a big deadline, my body goes into a panic mode where my energy immediately goes to figuring out how I’ll get something done well and on time. Outwardly, I don’t seem stressed so no one notices but actually I usually feel like I have a cold: fatigue, headache, sore throat, sinus infection. When a task is done, i stop feeling like crap. It’s been like this since law school. Any tips on managing stress or moving towards doing good work without my body shutting down lol?

Advice and/or consolation anyone? My wife and I (both above average health 30year olds) were trying for 11 months before getting pregnant and then had a week 5 early miscarriage a few months back. If the stress and surprise of just how difficult it apparently is to get pregnant wasn’t enough, the miscarriage put us over. We got back to it and have been trying for the last 2 months again, still no luck. We’re freaking out… all we want is a family. Any similar stories? Advice? 😢

Hi off topic- my wife is not able to conceive for last 3 years, trying homeopathy medicine now. Any good astrologer in bangalore who has predicted correctly for anyone of you and mentioning month etc details. Any help would be appreciated pls

How many of you took pain killers before your covid shots?

I'm pretty sure I've been suffering from ADHD my entire life. As a POC, admitting anything that remotely sounds like a mental disease wasn't an option. Now that I'm a growntheir 35 year old man...

So i have adhd and really bad anxiety. Seeing a physchiatrist that will likely put me on anti anxiety meds.

Has anyone with adhd here gone on anti anxiety meds without treating the adhd, and if so how did the meds affect concentration and memory?

Curious what other opportunities are out there for licensed insurance agent in P&C, Health/Life/Medicare. No sales.

Has anyone taken tranxene? First time taking it and instantly felt relieved. Not really drowsy or slower but not sure what to expect moving forward.

Any advice with anxiety before calls/door pulling? Never happened before but it’s crippling now.

Anyone get their covid booster shot in 3rd trimester? My ob recommended it but I’m unsure if I should get it now or wait until after delivery.

Losing hair really badly!!! :( I dont know if its the thyroid meds or just pregnancy. I'm currently 13 weeks. Any recommendations? I'm doing the hair oil stuff but that will take time.

Is firm travel back up to pre covid levels?

Lots of right wing hysteria about liberals trying to engineer equality of outcome to correct sexual/racial inequities (in higher ed, for example). I think we all want socioeconomic, gender and racial barriers to opportunities to be addressed, but no significant number of people really believe in equality of outcome right? This is just a straw man argument.

Curious to hear everyone's "expectations" versus "reality" for their wedding day?
There's such an expectation around one's wedding day but not much discussion around how it's different from it

Does anyone else struggle immensely with cleaning/keeping things clean? I struggle with clutter.
I haven’t been able to get my apartment clean since I moved in over a year ago and it’s just a disaster.
What do you do? I can’t really afford to hire someone so I need all the info.

Good ideas for teaching subtraction across zeros? I teach 3rd grade. Are there videos out there? The students struggle with subtraction all together.

How easy internal mobility in Atlassian India for EMs if they don’t like work in the team?

Hi everyone, my wife came to the US through the i130 process about 1.5 years ago and her CR1 PR expires in August. What are the next steps? confused between i90 or i751

Hey fishes,

Does EY provide relocation expenses for moving inside same city? From one end to another end? To shift home in other area?

Anyone have insight on Adams and Reese (culture, pay, hours, etc)?

What is the drug culture like at your office? I assume people don’t openly talk about what they do in their free time if illicit, but they may do so quietly or you can otherwise tell.
Do you get the impression many people do them? If so, soft drugs (ex - weed)? Hard drugs? Non-prescribed study drugs? Frequency? At work-sponsored social functions? To an extent that it’s noticeable/problematic?

Shout out to everyone who’s ever had a white paper to “copyedit” that they just ended up rewriting entirely. I’m there today.

Folks what should be my CTC expectation with below experience and skills

Role - Tech Project Manager
YOE- 8 years
Skills - GCP, AWS, DevOps, DevSecOps

Please let me know. Need guidance

Has anyone ever been on an online dating site and saw one of their co-workers on there? 😂 🙋🏾‍♀️

39M in West LA, looking to meet someone for drinks and see where things go! (Never married, no kids)

Hi all, when do y’all think is a good time to have the “what are we”/“are we exclusive” talk? After how many dates?

What are the best ways of tax exemption

Any one here based out in the Middle East? If so, what's your experience. Would you recommend it. I am 32F - African Descent planning to relocate to the UAE.

Ketanji did not come to play! Came out of the gate ready to fight and turn these racist arguments on their heads. The way she was dropping 14th Amendment bombs on that man made me so happy. And this is only her first day. I just hope they protect her well.

Today is the first day of the new work week! What are your goals for this week?

Anyone feel like your job sees you as "one of the good ones?" It hasn't explicitly been said, but I'm one of the only Black attorneys at the firm and I think my white colleagues and partners see me as an example of how Black folks "should be" cause I mind my business. Basically I feel like a token, and I don't know how to shift that idea while staying professional.

Hey all, I’m starting a new job soon (in 2 weeks to be exact), but I haven’t been contacted by the firm. Should I be concerned?

What is the starting Salary for entry level insurance defense attorney in NYC area?

Have you ever joined a firm purely based on how many POC would be in your practice area?

Starting at a new firm, What can I do to leave a good first impression?

My work quality is slipping due to brain fog and mental health issues and I don’t know how to address it with my firm or who to go to. I was considered one of the best associates in our practice group, but now it can take me 3-4x the time to write an average brief. I can’t seem to think and organize my thoughts any more. This is incredibly scary bc obvi, that’s what this job is all about. I’m in IP litigation at a V50 firm and a mom. Do I raise it with partners and how?

Does anyone feel like it’s difficult to gain acceptance and find allies when you’re a POC? I have attended happy hours, social events, and lunches, but I am not getting the same amount of traction as the other new lawyers who are white. Don’t know whether I should keep trying or just give up. Also don’t know whether it’s my personality or people at the firm. 😢

Thinking of pivoting from insurance defense to something more meaningful and (dare I say it) with more work life balance. Currently in my 7th year of practice and am just tired of ID. Anyone make the transition? Any advice?

Might be a silly question but I will throw it out there. Anyone have any tips on best practices to preserve a silk press overnight? Currently have silk pillowcases but wrapping always ends up a fail.

How do I professionally decline a second interview? I know for sure I don’t want to work at the firm.

Are y’all finding your white male bosses to be incompetent as hell or is just me? And they will milk you for all your brilliance and try to squeeze every ounce of labor out of you.

Okay so I’m a newly licensed attorney in a very conservative part of TX. I just got my first job offer and I was worried at first thinking that I was in “Trump” territory, but I tested the waters in my interview and spoke about police injustices and how prosecutor’s job is not only to protect victims, but also defendants from police injustices. I have to let them know by tomorrow, but thoughts on if this is a good career move for someone who wants to work in transactional work-RE or Bankruptcy?

Anybody having to participate in/listen to discussions at work regarding the recent events at the Capitol where your views are in contrast to others in the discussion? If so, how have you handled this?

LA fish: Any ideas for Pro Bono assistance for nonprofit community/cultural orgs? A family member recently joined the board of a nonprofit community/cultural org and is looking for counsel. There are no active legal issues, but they’re just trying to get affairs in order and have systems in place in case any do arise. I’m unable to represent them myself due to my work and lack of experience, and I’m unfamiliar with potential resources. Thank you!

Have you ever been told off by an older attorney of color? We have one Black partner at our firm and in conversation with him this morning he told me I should work on sounding and looking "more professional" and not let my "tone" or "bad attitude" get in the way. I don't think I've ever had a bad attitude at work, and whatever "tone" I'm speaking in it's my normal one. As a Black woman I just feel super weird about it and kind of sad.